(Closed) Guest List Gathering

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3942 posts
Honey bee

Well we paid for the wedding so it may be different if your parents are paying.

We each made our own guest list with family and friends. We asked our parents to email the names  of any friends they would like, and each parent only invited 2 very very close friends. The rest of the guest list was family and our friends.

start with the guest list first and then figure out your budget. You may have to cut some people from your list to stay within budget. once you have the final list then pull the addresses together.

Post # 4
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We just asked our parents to send their “dream” list, and they ended up being really reasonable.  My parents only wanted to invite 1 couple of their friends and DH’s wanted 2, and then their family member invites overlapped people we were inviting anyway so it was really easy. 

We had our parents just email us the addresses of the people we didn’t know, but we send Christmas cards every year so I already had a spreadsheet set up for that with most of them.

Post # 5
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We compiled a list of all possible people we might want to invite should budget and space not have any constraints.  We made it very, very clear that there would definitely be cuts to this list so nobody would be shocked later on that great aunt Sally’s step nephew’s friend wasn’t on the final list.

I did an excel spreadsheet and bolded people who MUST be invited- parents, grandparents, siblings, close friends, etc.

I put in italics those who could be cut if we ran out of budget or space.

As for friends of parents, I said they could be on the ideal list, and if we had enough space and money left over, we could see about adding them in.

Post # 7
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Did you decide on an ideal number and tell each side that they had X amount of space?”– YES. 

We also had financial gifts from both sides, and were shooting for 100 guests. So each family had 25 guests, Darling Husband & I had 25 each. DH& I overinvited, and we ended up with about 110 total.

If we hadn’t put limits, the number would have been WAY higher (the first list Mother-In-Law sent me, left over from SIL’s wedding, had over 50 guests on it.) I made things easier for everyone (DH included) by coming up with an initial draft- “Do you want to invite so-and-so? Is someone else important missing from this list?” And, we had B-lists as well. “If cousin Suzy doesn’t come, then we can invite your neighbor.”

One “rule” we stuck by- no one was invited that neither Darling Husband nor I would recognize.

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