Post # 1
I know that in many ways we’ve touched on this subject before, but I really need to ask pretaining to my specific situation…bear with me.
Okay, as we all do – I have many groups of friends. Some I see alot, some not at all, some I really only still know anything about due to the wonders of myspace and facebook.
Well through the grape vine, (my bridesmaid MJ) I’ve come to find out a person from my pastis really really excited about coming to my wedding. Citing how it’s going to be the best party ever and all this.
Now, he’s not exactly invited. Some other people from that group of friends is because I’m closer to them and still chat them up now and again. But mostly because I despise with more intensity then understandable, his girlfriend – who will UNFORTUNATLY be his wife by the time my wedding rolls around.
I could have just seen past the "we don’t talk too much" thing and set an extra plate for him at the reception and not batted an eyelash. But now that he’ll have Queen of all thing Evil in tow…..I don’t want to invite him or even consider it. I just do feel bad because he sounds so excited to come and be apart of the day.
Now I’ve tried to be Retched Wendy’s friend through all of this, sent her a request via-myspace for friendship. Denied! Asked him why she dislikes me so much only to have her call me and tell me she doens’t dislike me at all, but then she talks behind my back, and well it’s very "high school" to say the least.
A: Ignore it, and just not invite them at all. As I don’t really see them enough to make this an akward thing daily…
B: Invite them and pray they don’t act up and the shove my big fancy wedding in the little "you-know-whats" face and gloat the whole night like an immature brat!
C: Try to mend the relationship with her again
D: forget the whole thing and have a drink.
Post # 3
D! you’ve got much bigger things to worry about than the feelings of people who you don’t really talk to anymore and who make you feel bad. they’ll find out soon enough. you can’t invite everyone who you’ve ever met!
Post # 4
Don’t invite them. He’ll figure it out when the invitation doesn’t arrive. It’s not like he’s saying to YOU that he’s so excited to come to your wedding; you only heard it through the grapevine. Pretend you never heard it at all and continue with your plans in blissful ignorance. I wouldn’t even address the subject in any way whatsoever unless he were to ask you directly. Which would be rude of him.
Post # 5
D and alot! heehee
uh – would you be heartbroken if that group of friends didnt share your wedding day with you? if so then yes, but if you’re even remotely luke-warm about it, then in whitney houston’s infamous wordsm "aawww he11 to the NAW!!"
Post # 6
Have they invited you to their wedding?? If not, then I wouldn’t even bat an eyelash and just forget about it. If you have been invited, I would still probably ignore it due to guest limitations at your wedding.
I hate to say it, but as you get closer to the wedding, this won’t be the first time there are issues with the guest list!
Post # 7
We’ve had quite a few people say they can’t wait for our wedding, asked for the date so they can put it on their calendar, etc… and they aren’t invited. Oh well. If you don’t feel like you care about having a close relationship with this couple in the future, then don’t worry about it. It’s fine – he’ll get over it. Invite the people you WANT there, and don’t worry about the rest.
Post # 8
We have also had people that we never considered inviting make sure that we have their address; ask about the date; even tell us that we need to reschedule because they can’t make it!!! I can’t wait for the problems that supposedly crop up after you send the invitations (like people wanting to bring uninvited children, cousins, brothers and sisters…) I would not invite anyone that you don’t absolutely want to be there. Clearly if you have to worry about how they will behave, you don’t want them there. And don’t let them manipulate you into feeling that you have to invite them!