- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I’m quite close with my grandma, and she’s a really great woman and good for a laugh, but she’s also a teensy bit on the crazy side.
By this I mean, she has a tendency to over react or take things personally that really aren’t meant to be insulting.
So, cut to the actual dillemma, we are having a wedding on a budget. I’m talking $5000 MAX. And I have a guest list that’s sitting at 184 people. Ideally, I’d like to have a wedding of around 100-120 people. I already have my venue booked, and I’m having an outdoor wedding, so logistically it is feasible, but the more people you have, the more money it will cost.
So, in money saving terms, it just makes sense to trim down the guest list. I’ve cut out work friends that brought me down approximately 15 people. Then I told FH that any friends that we haven’t spoken to in the last 12 months don’t get an invite. So there went another dozen or so. But we still have 184 people on the guest list, and this is sticking to only family and our closest friends. (We both have large immediate families and metric tonnes of aunts, uncles, and cousins.)
BUT! I could eliminate about 45 people in one swell swoop if I didn’t invite my Grandmothers family. To clarify, my grandmother married my Grandpa the same year I was born, and I am close to him as he is the only grandfather I’ve known despite there being no biological connection. His family, however, I am not close to. At all. With the exception of having a couple on facebook, I don’t even speak to any of them. I’m not even sure of some of their names, and could pass the majority of them on the street and never know it.
I know, however, that if I don’t invite them my grandmother will be devestated. Like lock herself in her room weeping devestated. She’s a naturally theatrical woman, so I speak the truth. I’ve talked to my mom about not inviting them, but she wasn’t much help, other than to tell me to invite them out of politeness, and take comfort in knowing most won’t come because the wedding would require them to travel. (So, I’m thinking, if they won’t come anyway, why bother wasting money on postage for their invites.)
But, what if they do come? I know my grandma has already been talking to them about the wedding and “having a wedding convoy and how much fun that would be.”
Anyways, would it be terrible of me to not invite them? Or is it more terrible to invite them and hope they don’t come? Has anyone else had a similar problem, and if so… how did you deal with your metaphorical crazy sensitive grandma?