(Closed) Guest List – HELP!!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: A current guest list of 114 - what would you do? (130 max, 110 ideal)...
    Invite the 167 to the whole day : (5 votes)
    45 %
    Invite 130 to the whole day : (5 votes)
    45 %
    Invite 110 to the whole day (which would cause even more havoc with list!) : (1 votes)
    9 %
    Invite everyone who are "maybes" as well, which brings the total to about 135 : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @dream_angel:  I can honestly say that I don’t know what to tell you. My Fiance and I have about that many people invited, maybe a little less but their families and dates too, so if everyone that was invited showed up with a date or family it would be over 200. Luckily, we’ve got plenty of space so I am not worried…

     

    Sorry I can’t really be of any help! 🙁

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m not really understanding this. A wedding is a whole day celebration—it traditionally includes the ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, and reception. You aren’t supposed to invite guests to some parts of the celebration, and not invite them to other parts. 

    So, invite the 130 that you have room for to all of the events of the day. Otherwise, it’s like you have a tiered guest list, and will offend the guests that weren’t invited to all parts. And yes, you should invite your vicar and his wife to everything (if he is the one that is marrying you). 

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I can’t speak for personal expirience since my Fiance and I haven’t finalized our guest list butttt, we did know a couple who kept the the ceremony and dinner portion of the night more intimate with about 100 friends and family members. Then once the reception started they had all there other friends and co workers swing through. At the point they had an open bar and apps and deserts (since most of the new guests were expected to eat else where pror the reception) but provided them with things to pick on while they danced. They saved a good chunk of money doing this too since they didn’t have to pay per plate, and the venue only charged per person for catering. 

    Hope that helps. 🙂 

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @BrooklynWife:   +1

    Even though I’m inclined to say only invite 110 if that’s a more realistic number for you.

    Just whatever you do, DO NOT invite more people than you can accomodate.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    you’re going to get mixed reviews on here, because it’s regional and national -on who you invite to what and when, lots of folks in the usa consider it rude to not invite to the whole event(s) and for example, out of the states, you’ll see it more common.

    Really it s about you and you and your fi feel about it.

    We were doing family to the ceremony and friends and everyone else to the dinner and dancing part, but found out (as much as people complain about not wanting to go to a wedding) that almost every single one of our friends had something to say about not being invited, and how they wre family too-lol. Even the guys! and even the folks we didnt think would want to go to a boring ceremony, so -we have up’d our budget to accomodate everyone to the ceremony and everyone to the reception.

    sigh. but it will be so much fun! 🙂 can’t wait!! this is much better, no hurt feelings and no weirdness between folks who come to one part but not the other, etc.

    Post # 9
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    It also depends on where you are and what is acceptable in your culture….is it the norm in your area to do tiered lists?  if so, everyone will understand, if not, then I don’t think it’s a good idea to start the trend. In that case invite the number that makes sense for your budget and venue.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Invite the amount you can accomodate for all the days events only.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @dream_angel  Ah! Like Kate and Will! I got it!  Hmmm, can all 167 fit in the church? If so, then invite all to the church and evening reception (maybe spread through word of mouth you won’t be offended if people only invite to the evening reception don’t come), and then just invite close familly/friends to brunch. Maybe the friends who go to the hen party the night before will want to take a nap in between the ceremony and the night reception! 

    Are you going to have 2 dresses too! You’re lucky the whole day is spaced out and you get a really long celebration! Congrats!

     

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Anaheim Hills Golf Course

    I think it’s rude to allow certain people to come to certain parts of the wedding. Bad etiquette!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble

    we were doing something similar. early evening family dinner, then ceremony with everyone, followed with apps, dessert and alcohol late night.

    I think if you do this, you should do an early ceremony and lunch with the 110 guest list. then, in the evening, like after 7, opt for dancing, apps and open bar. also, this gives other guests the option of finding child care so they can party all night.

    fyi, you would do 2 separate invites. one for lunch group and then one for late night group. you could change your early reception to immediate family, Bridal Party & Out of Town guests. this way it’s less expensive and people won’t be nearly as offended, if at all.

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