Post # 1
I need some help!
My grandmother has 12 brothers and sisters. I am close with two of them. REALLY close (like they were present for my birth and are pretty much my second set of grandparents). I am definitely inviting them. There are six others still living and they have spouses. I am not close to them – they live four or five hours away I haven’t seen them in five (+) years. They have never meant Fiance and I don’t even know if they know I am engaged.
My grandfather has 3 siblings. I see them once a year and I have decided to invite them because we are closer with them.
My grandmother is jealous that her siblings aren’t all invited. We haven’t sent out save the dates or anything, but should I invite them?
I don’t want to be rude – I just don’t know them and would feel awkward with them there. Or maybe I wouldn’t notice that they were there and wouldn’t care, if they chose to come at all.
Post # 3
We were in similar circumstances. My Nana has 2 brothers that are alive but we are not inviting either due to not seeing one but twice since we have been together and the other brother not at all. On the other hand, my grammy’s brother (she has since passed) is invited as he is the only living relative on my dad’s parents’ side of the family (elderly). So he is being invited because my grandparents are not alive and we see him every once in a while. I think you could just invite the two you are close to and leave it at that. If people ask you just need to be honest. You can’t invite everyone or the guest list would be huge!
Post # 4
@Saeliz: I love my Nana and I don’t want to upset her . . . but that was my gut.
I don’t know – anyone else have experiences with this? I would love to hear!
Post # 5
Maybe if you invite them they won’t even be able to make it? It’s hard because you don’t want to upset her but if you are paying for it I wouldn’t want to give a friend’s seat to someone you don’t speak to.
Post # 6
This is tough because you are inviting some of her siblings and that could cause problems with you not inviting all. My Fiance and I aren’t inviting any of our grandparents’ siblings, so it was easy for us just to say ‘sorry, no one past first cousin is invited’, but I would say you should invite them all if you are inviting any, out of respect for them and your grandmother.
Post # 7
@LY1923: They probably won’t come if they don’t know you. Invite them. It means a lot to your grandmother. It will work out and it will be ok. 🙂