Post # 1
I am thrilled that everyone wants to come to our Destination Wedding next summer, but since we can only have 50 people the guest list has been somewhat of a nightmare to reign in. I am running into some issues now where people assume they are going to be invited and are hinting about booking travel, etc. I am just reposnding that I’m still planning, our wedding is 10 months away so some close friends and fam have Save-The-Date Cards but invites will go out in a few months.
I know the rate of people coming to a Destination Wedding is at about 50% but everyone we sent Save-The-Date Cards to is coming! We dont have room to invite anyone else!
Destination Wedding ladies, have you run into issues with people assuming they’re invited and how did you politely tell them that they werent? I think everyone just wants a vacation! I’m trying to do this as drama free as possible and I dont want anyone to be offended but we cant have everyone there and I dont know how to handle it and remain stress free.
Were running into the issue now where if we invite x, then we need to invite his brother, sister, etc and before you know it we have an extra 15 people…
Post # 3
I’m having a Destination Wedding also.. well, for everyone else it is. We moved to Kauai, so everyone has to come here. We are sending about 100 invites. That’s not including all the members of the family!
A lot of people already started booking their tickets. I haven’t talked to anyone who isn’t invited, but I’m having a problem with the +1.
We are hoping not everyone shows up! But some people are assuming they can bring someone.. and most of them are right. They have been with their SO for a couple years.
One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man on the other hand, she wants to bring her Boyfriend or Best Friend (or whatever he is). There are lots of problems I have with this.. which is a whole other post.
Plus we haven’t invited majority of my dad’s family, and they will find out. So I can’t really say there’s only going to be a few close people. Even if there is 30 or 40, they are going to see pictures and be offended.
Sorry I’m no help! Just thought I’m glad I’m not alone with this issue
Post # 4
I am concerned about the +1’s too… a lot of the single ladies dont have bf’s but I cant expect them to travel alone, as far as guys guy if you’re not in a serious relationship then no +1’s. All the guys are traveling together so they’re wont be issues with that and I seriously doubt they complain about lonliness.
I dont want to make things awkward with family members… but not enough so to actually invite them! I am feeling a lot of pressure from FI’s family and I dont want those people to hold that over my head forever.
Sigh, I need a massage!
Post # 5
My dad has two sister.. I invited one aunt and her two kids (and their kids), but i didn’t invite the other aunt or her three kids (or their kids). I know they know about the wedding, the have even seen our wedding website. I am not that close with them, and if we aren’t close with them, we aren’t inviting them.
I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but it’s expensive, and it’s our wedding. I would have invited certain people if we lived in Florida still.
The people you don’t want to invite (or the ones who are expecting to come) how close are you with them?
I would tell people that you are limited with the number of people you can invite. You are doing close family and friends first. Tell them maybe you will have something later ( a little reception maybe) for other people to come?
Post # 6
We’re not close with them at all, I will just have Future Mother-In-Law explain space limitations and push AHR. I just feel bad but if I feel bad every time I will end up with a 200 person wedding!