Post # 1
I’m new!!! Just joined today, My wedding date is June 13, 2015. Why is the guest list the hardest???? Here’s my dilemma.
I want a small wedding, i was hoping for 50-70 ppl, as I started the list, it grew to over 200!!! I had a bit of a break down and took the black marker and started crossing people off. The list is now 106, which I’m much happier with.
So of our friends that we are inviting, when I send out a Save the date and the person invited does not have a SO, is it ok not to give them a guest?? I understand how things can change from the time of the save the dates and the RSVP, but is it rude to invite someone with no Guest?
Thanks in advance!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
No, it’s not rude to invite a single person and not give them a +1. Just be sure that you are consistent across the board. Meaning, don’t give single person A a +1 but not single person B.
Post # 3
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
Agree with the PP, you should make it a rule Accross the board. No singles with plus ones period. If you make exceptions then people will get their feelings hurt. You should extend guests to your bridal party as a curtesy.
Mine thing to keep in mind is that a lot can change in someone’s relationship status in a year. I know people who have moved in together it gotten married after dating less than a year. That may increase your head count closer to your wedding. I counted every single person with a plus one when we first created our guest list (although none of our guests knew that). When the time comes to send invitations if they are still single then they don’t get a plus one. If they are in a relationship then they will. I did it this way to avoid increasing the head count unexpectedly.
Post # 4
missabby: Hi there! I hear you on the guest list!! We wanted about 150, at one point had a list of over 250!, got it down to 195 and are **praying** only 165-175 show up 🙂 While I totally get wanting to include everyone, you just need to stick to your budget, venue capacity, and what will work for you. Try to remember now, that no matter what, someone WILL be offended, mad, pissed off, whatever in regards to your wedding. People will disagree with some or many of your choices…just don’t let it get to you, especially once you’re knee deep in stressful planning.. it can be toxic!
For the +1… we also had that issue. Many of the people we invited at the time were single so they didn’t get a +1 (if we had unlimited space and $$, different story). Now, a bunch of them have SO so we had to make some adjustments..some are getting them, some unfortunately not. We pretty much decided at the time of inviting, if they aren’t living together, no +1. College age family members were only invited solo, “fling of the month” was not invited lol… It’s definitely not rude to only invite one person. Only exception might be if you know they are traveling from far away and won’t know many other guests… just so they have someone to talk to 🙂
Post # 5
missabby: we didn’t give anyone a +1 that wasn’t living with their signifigant other. Do keep in mind thet they say at least 15-20% of people you invite don’t come. we also had 2 waves of invitations. after a certian date we had to decide if the ‘b’ list was getting invites or not.