(Closed) Guest list… How many will say no?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 17
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012 - Catholic Church, Chateau Thomas Winery

It’s so hard to tell! We’re having way more accept than we thought but I think it will work out ok. Shortening the list is really tough. Good luck!

Post # 18
1550 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

we thought that 20% of people would decline.

we invited 240 people and only 2 people said no.

needless to say, i was FREAKING out.

Post # 19
6290 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

You should allow for the full number of guests to attend: so if your guest list is 200, your venue needs to be able to accommodate 200, and you need to be able to pay for 200.

There is no sense assuming a certain percentage will decline, as you may well get a full house. My parents had a big party for their wedding anniversary this year: they invited around 96 people, 4 couldn’t come (and told us before we even sent invites out), and a further 3 will ill on the day. Everyone else came.

When we do our invites we will be inviting the number we can accommodate. If we haven’t received RSVPs by our deadline, we will chase people up, and if they can’t attend, we will think about bumping evening guests up to the full day, or expanding our guest list for the evening, to make up the numbers. But no way will I invite over the number we can afford/have space for, right from the off, as it’s way too risky IMPO

Post # 20
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The fewer people you invite, the higher your “attending” rate will be.  If you only invite 100 people, odds are good that you/your fiance/either family is/are fairly close to everyone on the list so it is likely that a high percentage of those people will come.  If your invite 400, odds are good that many on the list are distant relatives/not as close friends/work colleagues etc and you’ll have a lower percentage attend the wedding. 

I went to a wedding in August where the couple invited 116 people and 114 of them RSVP’d yes and attended, then I went to a wedding in September where the couple invited 426 people and had 196 RSVP yes and 184 actually show up.  It’s a numbers game.

Post # 20
6 posts
  • Wedding: January 2016

Save the parents some money and and invite only the 100 people you really, really want at your wedding and reception.  No plus 1’s unless you want both people there. Just because the folks said a max of 100, doesn’t mean you have to abuse they’re good intention and go int the mind set of “use it or lose it”. 

Post # 21
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

First wedding: invited 250something and just over 200 showed up. Lots of extended, distant family that I didn’t know really, and a bunch of out of town family too.

Second wedding: invited 60 and 60 showed up. Immediate family and best friends. All local. 

You just never know. 

Edit: dang it, this thread is old as hell

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  dracarys.

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