(Closed) Guest List Issue- How to Handle?- HELP!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just tell them that because of seating you are limited on space and can only accommodate the family only.  You never know, the youngers may not want to come by themselves and maybe you can save two more seats.

Post # 4
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you have already invited the daughter then you are stuck with that. If you only communicated your intent to your Dad, it’s not too late.

You can phone or email her and say you noticed her comment on your website and  you are sorry but you are not able to accomodate any extra guests.

Or, you could communicate with the girl’s parents, who were invited, and tell them that they or she must have misunderstood, and that you are not able to accomodate any extra guests.

Post # 5
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

A cousin of mine that I have not seen or contacted in nearly 20 years expressed something similar via Facebook. I told him we are having a small, intimate wedding with only close friends, immediate family, and the few cousins that we see often. I then told him I looked forward to seeing him another time, and to let me know the next time he is in my area.

Honestly, the folks you mentioned are super rude. Nobody should ever assume they are invited to anything.

Post # 7
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Booking hotels isn’t the same as booking plane tickets – they can still be canceled.  I’d communicate to the daughter that due to space and the intimate nature of your wedding, you’ll be unable to accommodate her and her brother, but you look forward to catching up at a different time.

Goodness, what is it about weddings that makes people just invite themselves?  No communication for over 6 years, but they find out you’re paying for $100 dinners and they just come out of the woodwork?  Be honest and firm – it’s their faux pas, not yours.

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