- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
I hate the guest list. Really, really hate it. It’s the bain of my exsistance right now.
For months I have been asking my Future Mother-In-Law for the guest list and addresses. Two months ago I received her list with most of the addresses and a line at the bottom that says 4 more names and addresses to follow. Two months later, I still don’t have those names and addresses. Next month I send out the Save-The-Date Cards.
Also at the bottom of that list were two of my FH friends. That’s right, not my FH’s friends, but his brother’s friends. Seriously? N.O.
Now onto guest list that I do have. Our wedding is going to be approx. 150 people. I am trying to be as fair as I can be with the list. Half is mine, half is his. But everytime tell FH that one of his people is on the B list he gets upset. Particularly one of his friends. He says this friend is a "best friend". In the 2 1/2 years that I have known him I’ve never once heard of this friend before. Never met him. Don’t have a clue who he is. But FH claims he is a good childhood friend and he lived 3 houses down from him blah, blah, blah. He insists on putting him at the top of the B list. I have family on the B list, but he insists on this friend.
I’ve gone over the list a ton of times with him. Explained the fairness and he never gets it. He’s counting on a lot of family we invite to not come. I keep telling him you can’t count on that. Not until they RSVP no. It’s really driving me crazy because he makes me feel like I’m slighting him, but I am actually sacraficing some of my family members so a lot of his friends and family can go and it’s still not enough for him. I’ve even shown him breakdowns of the list!
Grooms Family: A List= 56 B=0
Grooms Friends: A list=20 B=18
Bride’s Family: A list=47 B=14
Bride’s Friends: A list=19 B=14
Everytime we have a conversation about the guest list he turns into brat! I don’t know how to deal with it anymore. Any suggestions?