(Closed) Guest List issues

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@truefrommetoyou:  Don’t invite people just because they are family.  There are quite a few family members that we aren’t inviting because of our budget and the fact that we want friends there.  Invite the people that you want to invite.  If anyone says anything about not being invited, (which is extremely rude) tell them that your budget would only allow a certain number of guests. We are only inviting the family that we spend time with and enjoy seeing.

It’s a wedding, which is very expensive, and, unfortunately, not everyone can be invited. My fi and I have a ridiculous amount of friends and we had to be picky about who is being invited. Also, it sounds like there is potential for family drama at the wedding, which is the last thing you need on your special day.  The guest list was probably the hardest part for us.  Start by cutting out the people you “have” to invite, while keeping those that you think would add to your day. Good luck!

Post # 4
9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would invite: your biological family, and stepfamily that you are close with, like your stepparents and stepsiblings. But mainly invite who you want to be there with you on your special day 🙂

Post # 5
1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

First, I would say invite your immediate biological family, any of their spouses and fiancees, then other family is optional.   Of course, if your dad is paying, you do have to consult him, but otherwise, even thought your SM has been in your life a number of years,  her parents and siblings are a degree further “out” than your aunts, uncles and siblings. 


Second, I would say, go REAL easy on STDs.   Once you send a STD, you are committed to inviting that person.  I know many brides get excited and want to send them out, but IMHO, other than VIPs and OOT people, they are both unnecessary and can create more problems. 

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