(Closed) Guest list issues

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t think you should be getting married now if you are worried about being able to afford it. Wait until you can afford to have all the guest you want to have so it does not cause more issues later on about why you did not invite certain people. Are you not having anything else at the wedding? Like photographer, cake,flowers, dj etc?

Post # 3
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1053 posts
Bumble bee

You might want to make sure that the venue doesnt have a minimum as most do, perhaps 35 people doesnt meet the minimum. Can you borrow money? Also if the venue is $4750, and the extra $750 is too much what about food, drinks, photographer, flowers, decoration, etc…

Post # 4
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

Since you and your Fiance are paying for the wedding then ignore anyone’s comments about the guest list.  They can grumble all they want, just don’t give in.  So invite the number that you can afford.  It sounds like cutting the list would be more beneficial to your budget and pockets.

Also keep in mind that you need to include yourselves and your vendors (DJ and photographer) into the guest list.  Make sure that you include everyone’s SO, but know that giving any truly single guests a plus one is not required.  But I would plan the guest list as if any single guest will be bringing a date in case they do get in a relationship prior to your wedding (best to be overprepared).

Have you considered pushing your wedding back a bit?  This way you can save but not have the pressure of “OMG I have to save this much by this date or we are screwed!” feeling in the back of your mind all the time.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I had the motto during my wedding, we pay, our way.  I know some people dont agree with it and in the end our family did give some money but no one had input on the guest list.  it was exactly what we wanted and everyone had a great time!  but I agree with PP, if you do want to invite everyone then wait until you can afford it or else it wont be fun!

Post # 8
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

SapphireAngel94:  Well since your parents are contributing then they do have a say in your guest list.  I think you, your Fiance, and your parents need to sit down and discuss the budget and guest list.  You all need to get on the same page and start compromising.

Post # 9
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

Definitely do not get a loan for your wedding.  You should never go into debt for a party.

Post # 12
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1053 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with freckles071611 – NO LOAN. Cut the guest list down and if your family gives you grief about cutting people they want there, then tell them to fork over the money for their own guests

 

Post # 14
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

SapphireAngel94:  You aren’t allowing two Groomsmen to bring their SOs?  I would rethink that.  These people are taking time out of their lives to be in your wedding (aka spending money), you should really allow them to bring their SOs.  Anyway it is rude to not allow people to bring their SOs regardless of the length of time they are together.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

That seems like a lot for only 70 guests, unless that inlcudes food and alcohol.

What I would be concerned about is the deposit – most places require at least the rental fee (sometimes more) up front with a signed contract.  Do you have money set aside to pay for that right now?  If not you may need to save a little bit longer.

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