Post # 1
You would think with our 350 person guest list that we wouldn’t have to leave anyone out, but both fiance’s family and mine had to cut good family friends, work friends, and even our friends to accomodate the numbers. The problem is we both have big families and want them to be there first and foremost. We budgeted for 300 people so hopefully some people can’t make it. haha. It’s just not fun to exclude people you see often and that you want there. Has anyone else experienced this??
Post # 3
Oh, yeah. For sure…we budgeted for 80, and his stepmom just blew our guest list out of the water yesterday with 30 more people who HAVE to get invited. Yuck.
Post # 4
We had to cut our guest list down tremendously. Our venue only seats 200 people (and thats onyl if they have 18inch butts) so we had to really pick out the people we wanted there. First and foremost for me was close friends and family (each of my parents have 4 or 6 siblings). My family is all out of town so I knew only about half would come.
The problem came with FH’s family. His mom gave me a list of like 250 people right off the bat which drove me to insanity. His whole family (I’m talking 5th, 6th, 7th cousins) live here so it was so hard for his mom to say well we can invite this person but not someone they are close to. FH didn’t even care or know who some of these people were. His POV was if I can’t put a face to their name they don’t need to be invited. So I had him make a list of who he wanted for his side of the list and then we could add in people from his parents’ list up to 110 people total on the list. out of those 110, people I think 95 are coming. So it worked out just right but I’ve been freaking out the last 6 weeks until we had our final numbers and it has been no fun and uncomfortable going to their side’s showers for us when I knew some of the people at the showers weren’t invited to the wedding (bad ettiquitte, I know, but I unfortunately had no control over this even after I said that makes me uncomfortable).