(Closed) Guest List Numbers

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would invite no more than 220 when you send your initial wave of invitations, and I would have the remaining guests on your “B” list.  The moment you receive a decline, you would be free to send the next invitation.

Just be sure when you do this to consider social groupings so that you invite all of one social group at the same time.  Otherwise, someone will know that he or she is on the “B” list.  Even Miss Manners says it’s not rude to have a “B” list.  The key is to not allow guests to know they are on it.

ETA:  I should add that you probably should send out your invitations a couple of weeks sooner than planned if you use this approach so that you will have time bulit in to receive some “regrets,” while still having plenty of time to send out “B” list invitations.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Brielle:  Good reply!!

even if you invite 221 guests assume everyone accepts the invitation, what would you do then?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Good question! I haven’t had mine yet, and I’m still waiting on RSVPs. But I’m thinking it depends on the guests. Are you inviting an older group, most everybody married and have children? You might get a number closer to your invites. I’m inviting a younger group, I’m the first of my friends to wed! But I’m thinking I’ll have some “tag alongs”, guests asking to bring a date exc. Cousins wanting to bring their boyfriends and kids. So we’ll see how this plays out!

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Agreed with PPs- and you may want to think about sending save the dates, to those you *know* will be on the guest list. I found out a few people weren’t attending and there was no way their rsvps would change (ex. one Out of Town friend was pregnant and didn’t have extra vacation time), which allowed us to add a few more.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you send out 220 invites, make sure its very clear that it’s invite only.

My wedding has morphed from a 50 person affair to around 100+.  Just beware of those guests and don’t invite someone to be polite who you don’t think is gonna come, cause they will inevitably come lol.  Does that sound bad?  (probably)

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@lshultz:  You definitely don’t want to ask for a pre-RSVP, because that will get very messy and will, essentially, defeat the purpose of the invitations.

Yes. ONLY send Save-The-Date Cards to those you KNOW will be invited. (This is the primary reason I — who had a semi-destination wedding on a holiday weekend — chose NOT to send Save-The-Date Cards. I could not imagine finalizing my guest list so far in advance.)

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@lshultz:  I don’t understand what you’re saying about the venue only holding accommodations up until three months prior to the wedding.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ahh. Yes it does! So, this is a destination wedding? Are there any other resorts/hotels in the area where guests would be able to make accommodations if they do not respond in sufficient time to secure accommodations at this particular resort?

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