- 6 years ago
I have what seems to be a fairly common dilemma but it is still eating me up! I want to be able to just make a decision and be able to say “done and done!” to this- and the Bees are always so helpful :).
Basically, my Fiance and I really want to keep our wedding moderate in size to stay within our also modest budget- we’d really only be able to afford a total of 150 invited (more like 120-130 in the end) comfortably, and still give everyone a good experience (i.e. food and drink!).
However, my Fiance has a huge family. His father alone has 13 brothers and sisters, who all have at least 2 kids, who all have at least 3 kids. Most of his cousins’ children are between the ages of 4-11. His cousins themselves are all in their 30’s, so it is a pretty young crowd overall. My family is relatively small, and we have only 2 children in the family right now (ages 7 and 9).
Anyway, the big debate has been over the children- they number at about 35 so far, and if we invite them (knowing full well we pay full price for all over 5 years old), we will not be able to invite a number of adult relatives and close friends. We have, so far, had to shave off quite a few of our own friends (including all of the co-workers we consider close friends, etc.) to stay within our budget range. My Fiance spoke to his father and one of his uncles, who stated that they thought it was understandable to not invite the small children in order to make sure other adults were included. His uncle (who has 2 children and 10 grandchildren) said he thought everyone would understand. My Fiance said that while he thinks it is the best course of action for us, he is still really worried that all his cousins will hate him if he doesn’t invite their kids.
My question is, if you didn’t invite children (due to budget/space/whatever), did you find that the majority of people were offended, didn’t care either way, or were happy about it? Did you find many who were understanding, or did you end up having to defend yourself to everyone? (I am worried about that as well!)