(Closed) Guest List Potential Drama

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Personally, I don’t think it would be that bad if you didn’t invite her. If your cousin cut ties with her and you nor your fiance are close with her, it wouldn’t make sense to put the cousin and her in an ackward situation.

Or ask the cousin how he feels about it. That will really tell and she can make the decision to come or not.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think so-I was invited to a wedding with a boyfriend-we broke up-and I had no interest in going.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree.  I don’t think you have to invite her. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think you have to invite her, either.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I don’t think you have to invite her either.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m with everyone else— you definitely do not need to invite her.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well, you don’t really need to invite her, like others said (and I have no idea why she’d want to go to a wedding where her ex-boyfriend will be). If you’re worried about her thinking she’s still invited, you should address it upfront – especially if you have the same social circles. If you’re a little non-confrontational like me, I would say talk to her friend that’s coming to the wedding and ask her to relay the news. Something like “Oh, NovaScotiaBride didn’t think you’d want to come because Ex-Boyfriend will be there, so she’s not expecting you there.”  You could even have your cousin talk to her (if they’re on speaking terms).

Good luck, although I think that she probably won’t come because it’ll be akward for her.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i agree that you don’t need to invite her. if you are worried that she’ll think she’s invited anyways, maybe you should address it. if it were me, i would have no interest in going to my ex’s family event anyways!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

p.s. – i’m from ns too!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would not invite her but I would invite your cousin with a guest because he was expecting to bring someone from the save the date!

Is she STILL in your circle of friends? 

– if no – I wouldn’t worry about it

– if yes – you may have to confront her or have cousin confront her about it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

no way – dont bother inviting her. shes not your friend, im sure if your cousin is her ex im sure shes cool with not being in the same event as him – seriously, i would totally understand not being invited – she should know if she’s not your friend she was only invited as your cousins guest. that’s exactly why “new relationships” i made sure to put “guest” which i know isnt too cool, but hey you never know. however, we had a strict “must be dating for one year rule” for plus ones – so really didnt occur.

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