- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Well, despite how optimistic I’ve been about our great guest list, of course I had to run into some issues eventually. So I have a few different questions.
1. For those of you woh limited +1s to serious relationships, how did you define “serious?” I have a LOT of cousins, and while we’re all pretty close I don’t always know their current relationship status… do I just ask? Also, one of my cousins (who is a BM) will have been with her guy for over 3 years at my wedding, but they aren’t living together or engaged and most likely won’t be then either. So I can’t make those definite cutoff points.
2. Our guest list was 1st cousins and our aunts and uncles (no great aunts/uncles). I just found out that 2 of FI’s closest cousins are actually his 2nd cousins, not 1st, which I didn’t realize. I guess they can be invited anyway since we aren’t close to any other 2nd cousins? But I don’t want any great aunts and uncles to be hurt because I do know some of them…
3. For 1st cousins, I’m close to almost all of them, but there are a few I have never met for various reasons (live too far away, step cousins who never made an effort to join the family, one step cousin who did make an effort but had kids and I haven’t seen him in years, etc.). I’m not sure if I should invite them since I’ll be inviting their parents (the cousins who live far away are in AZ and my uncle lives there too- I’ve met him once, should I invite him? I don’t want to exclude only him) and in the case of step-cousins, I’ll be inviting those that I know, so I don’t want any hurt feelings. The cousins won’t care as much as their parents.
Ugh, and here I was thinking my family hasn’t caused too many problems. Help on any of the above would be awesome.