(Closed) Guest List Quandary – Would love Married Bee’s input( in addition to the hive)

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3761 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think we were in the same position.  There were a lot of family friends growing up.  More people that my parents were friends with who had kids of similar ages and therefore we hung out as kids.  It was a group of about 5 core families and then a few additional families that over the years came and went. 

If I were to invite the full families (most of whom have children that are in college or even married) then it would add almost 30 people to my guest list.  It was hard but we decided to invite the parents only. 

It kinda stinks because many of the family friends were kids that I grew up with.  We did lots of bbqs, summer camps, etc.  But, I don’t speak to them regularly at all anymore. 

Its not a decision I regret, I think all of the families completely understood. 

Post # 4
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

No regrets. We left out lots of people… We did not invite any children with the exception of our 3 nephews and a neice. We also did not invite any adult children of parent’s friends.  Very easy decision.

Post # 6
1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We have a similar group of family friends.  There is a whole group of families that my family hung out with all the time while I was growing up.  In most cases, my parents are still friends with the parents, but my sister and I are no longer close at all with the (adult) kids.  In those cases, I just invited the parents to the wedding.  There was one case where I am still close with the “kids” in the family, so we invited them, but for the rest, they didn’t make the guest list…

Post # 8
1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No.  I have pretty much fallen out of touch with the “kids”, so I don’t think their parents were expecting invites for their kids.  The ones who I still see multiple times per year were invited, but the rest did not receive invites.  I haven’t heard of anyone being disappointed.  I wouldn’t expect to be invited to their weddings either though, so I guess the feeling is mutual.

Post # 9
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

I had one family friend who was invited and we didnt invite her sons. she has one son who still lives at home (They used to live across the street, so I know him well) she called to ask if he was invitd and was super nice about it, I said I didnt think he would want to go since he is like 19 and wouldn’t really know anuyone but that he was welcome to come (we had just had a “no”) he came and had a blast! He kept the dance floor going, danced with some of my cousins it was great! I was really glad he came even though we were never like close or kept in touch, so If you do wind up inviting these people – keep in mind they might be the life of the party!

(That being said for our friends we didnt invite anyone who we would have had to contact through facebook, if I havent called or emailed them recently enough to have their number- we werent close enough!)

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