(Closed) Guest list question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i dont understand the question….

if you are talking bout the maximum ur venue can hold i would give them the entire guest list head count… but in most cases your entire guest list is not going to show up… out of my 245, so far only 152 are coming ,62 are not and 31 are mia… the venue told us the fire saftey max is 220. so we are well below that.

Post # 4
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@futuremrste:  You mean like, “levels” of family? Aunts, yes, you should invite all your aunts if you invite one. However, I feel differently about “everyone gets a plus one.”

Post # 6
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2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i have 9 siblings… only 4 of them got invited and only 2 are showing up so i dont think u have to be fair and give everyone an invite. if you dont get along with someone YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO INVITE THEM. so what if they are blood related or not. its YOU AND YOUR FIANCE day  have the people u love and are happy to support ur marriage there…

Post # 7
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

Despite the advice often doled out on the bee, there is no etiquette guidleine that adheres to the all or nothing policy.

As the hosts you may invite and not invite whomever you see fit. Closeness to the hosts is equally valid as level or relation.

If you don’t want to invite Fiance cousin cause she is a drama queen, then don’t. But I do take objection to saying she isn’t really a cousin because she is adopted. There are loads of adopted bees that are closer to their parents then those born naturally to parents.

Post # 8
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8438 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@andielovesj:  This- pretty offensive to those who are adopted.

Also whilst I agree that you don’t have to invite everyone if you are choosing to exclude one person from a group well I think that is very different. Be prepared for the fallout because everyone in the family and especially this cousin and her parents will know that you have purposefully excluded her and her alone from his cousins.

Post # 9
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

@j_jaye:  I agree with this; if you are choosing to exclude one person from a group well I think that is very different. Be prepared for the fallout because everyone in the family and especially this cousin and her parents will know that you have purposefully excluded her and her alone from his cousins

You can be 100 percent with in the guidelines of etiquette and still hurt people’s feelings. 

Post # 10
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Don’t invite anyone who is going to cause a disruption in the festivities…but like j jaye expressed, stay steadfast and be prepared for the backlash.

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