Post # 1
Hi everyone! I have a couple guest list questions about my destination wedding. We are having a smaller wedding due to both budget and because our reception location only holds 50-60 guests. We already sent out Save the Dates because our wedding is across the country, and sent them to 75 guests assuming not everyone will be able to make it since its a destination wedding. We of course invited the partners of anyone married, engaged, or living together. My fiance has 6 friends that he has asked to be groomsmen, and none of them are in serious relationships so we have invited them alone and assume they’ll make it a guys trip together. Do you think thats ok? At least one has mentioned wanting to bring his new girlfriend, how do you think we should handle this? We are already have too many guests and will be way over budget if they all come! Thanks for any advice!
Post # 3
I would allow them to bring their girlfriend if they ask. If it was a local wedding, for her to stay at home while he is at the wedding is one thing. But, if he’s travelling across the country to be in your wedding – it’s reasonable to expect that he may want to bring her with him & make it a vacation. It would be terrible if she had to stay in the hotel by herself during the wedding.
Post # 4
Your wedding is a year and a half away.. I think it’s a little too early to be worrying about who gets invited with a date. If they are a new couple they may very well be broken up by Feb 2012. I would just say something vague to hold him off like “since we are so far out we aren’t at a place yet where we have totally firmed up the guest list. we need to evaluate our budget and space constraints”. These final decisions don’t need to be made until a couple months before the wedding.
Post # 5
I also would allow them to bring a girlfriend if they ask. I think people feel awkward when they’re invited alone. Also, how old are these guys? I know many people in their late 20s-40s who expect to be able to bring a date for a wedding.
Post # 6
The previous posters bring up good points. In this situation, I would likely say “yes” to the request. He is a groomsman and is traveling across the country to be a part of your special day. Something I’m wondering: Your wedding is a while away so things may change and they may no longer be together or they may be living together, etc. Would you invite her then? Would it make sense to factor her in now?
Post # 7
Yes, I would do the same–tell the groomsmen in question “all in due time, honey–we’ll figure all that stuff out when we get to the invitation” and deal it when the wedding is closer on the horizon for the reasons the PP already said. Not everyone we’ll probably end up inviting is getting a save-the-date and that’s ok. Some people will be late adds and just get the invite.