(Closed) Guest List Question for Destination Wedding

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would allow them to bring their girlfriend if they ask.  If it was a local wedding, for her to stay at home while he is at the wedding is one thing.  But, if he’s travelling across the country to be in your wedding – it’s reasonable to expect that he may want to bring her with him & make it a vacation.  It would be terrible if she had to stay in the hotel by herself during the wedding.

Post # 4
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Your wedding is a year and a half away.. I think it’s a little too early to be worrying about who gets invited with a date.  If they are a new couple they may very well be broken up by Feb 2012.  I would just say something vague to hold him off like “since we are so far out we aren’t at a place yet where we have totally firmed up the guest list.  we need to evaluate our budget and space constraints”.  These final decisions don’t need to be made until a couple months before the wedding.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I also would allow them to bring a girlfriend if they ask.  I think people feel awkward when they’re invited alone.  Also, how old are these guys?  I know many people in their late 20s-40s who expect to be able to bring a date for a wedding.

Post # 6
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The previous posters bring up good points. In this situation, I would likely say “yes” to the request. He is a groomsman and is traveling across the country to be a part of your special day. Something I’m wondering: Your wedding is a while away so things may change and they may no longer be together or they may be living together, etc. Would you invite her then? Would it make sense to factor her in now?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yes, I would do the same–tell the groomsmen in question “all in due time, honey–we’ll figure all that stuff out when we get to the invitation” and deal it when the wedding is closer on the horizon for the reasons the PP already said. Not everyone we’ll probably end up inviting is getting a save-the-date and that’s ok. Some people will be late adds and just get the invite.

 

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