- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I am not sure if Grooms can post on here, since these boards seem to be more bride centric, but I am overwhelmed and need some feedback, from anyone.
My fiancee and I are about a month engaged and are planning to get married sometime this year. We are generally a down to earth couple… That was until Wedding Planning started. 🙂
Of note before I continue:
- We are non-religious.
- My family has made it clear while they are happy for us, they will not be contributing to our reception/ceremony.
- My fiancee’s family most likely will not contribute, as times are tight.
- This leaves the wedding costs to us. We can afford to have a modest wedding and have agreed to control costs, but still have a nice time. (Budget $15,000+/+)
I thought a good number for guests was 100, and each of us would invite an equal ammount of people. I even understood that she may have a few more guests than my side.
I have 7 family members attending and 15 to 20 friends I consider close.
(1 best man, 1 groomsman)
My fiancee has a bigger family ~25 and 50 friends.
(1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 4-5 bridesmaids)
I think the above is a perfect number ~100.
Here is where we are struggling. There was a big disagreement over her family’s extended friends and family being invited. My fiancee would like to invite her parent’s friends & coworkers and her sibiling’s in-law’s parents. This is about 50 additional guests.
We have calmly discussed it and are now at an impasse. She has said they are on the list no matter what, and I have implored her to think this through, that 50x $150 per person, blows up our intentions to control costs.
Her compromise was that she will pay for additional guests out of her own finances. But that doesn’t make sense since we share finances already.
My thoughts are, I have never met these people, and while it would be easier to accept them as guests, I want my opinion heard too, to not spend an extra $7500 for no reason.
Does anyone have any advice in this situation?