- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
The venue we have fallen in love with holds 175 (it is outdoors so the capacity is solely based on parking and chairs). We just did our guestlist with the following assumptions:
-We gave every adult a plus one even if we know they will probably come alone
-In a few cases we assumed adult children of family friends will just come with their parents and didn’t give them a plus one
-We assumed distant aunts and uncles probably won’t fly across the country for the event
-We counted the children even though most of them are under 6 and don’t care about things like sitting in a chair and eating a whole meal
-About ¾ of our guests are coming from 2-3 hours away
-We included the wedding party in the final count
In this scenario, the final count is 237 invites, which if you follow the 75% rule EXACTLY means that 177 people will show up. That is cutting it pretty close! If we take out the plus ones we know won’t get used, mostly disregard the 10 babies as real guests, and make a (very short) b-list it feels a little safer, but could totally go out the window if his distant aunt decides that dragging the entire family across the country for a reunion is a great idea.
If a handful of extra people RSVP it wouldn’t be the end of the world because it happens and we could rent a few extra tables and chairs and we are doing a buffet dinner so all sitting at the same time isn’t a huge problem anyway, but I don’t want to be naïve and disrespectful of the venue by assuming the 75% thing will go off without a hitch or that we won’t be surprised by distant relatives.
Do we need to look at some major cuts or a new venue, or is it safe to invite 25% over the limit and assume they won’t come?