Post # 1
I’m new to the site and just starting to plan our Sept 12 wedding. I asked everyone for their guest list and have gotten names such as “Amy in Accounting” and “Guy in Registration +1” from my wonderful Fiance. No Joke! When I explained that I need full names and address of the guests plus their spouses he looked at me like I had asked him to wear a pair of my heels?!? The list from his mother is even more interesting, “Cousin in Chicago with 3 or 4 kids”, “Ladies I play bingo with”. Um… really??
Now my first instinct is to call or talk to each person and get the correct information but as of today we are at 415+ guests (yep, big family and I can’t say no to the kiddo’s) and I have less than 100 complete names/addresses.
I know I’m not the only one who has had this problem. How on earth did you get all of your names/address for your guest list?
Post # 3
Ask and enlist help 🙂
Both our parents and the 2 of us emailed, facebooked, texted, and called our guests and explicitly asked for their full names, addresses, and phone numbers. Allow yourself A LOT of time for this because it took us a while to hear back from people. Be patient and persistent. Eventually, we got them all but it wasn’t as easy as I initially thought it would be.
Post # 4
you could also use whitepages.com for addresses. that helped me A LOT! we also have 350+ people and i probably got 3/4 of the list done with white pages!
Post # 5
I used Facebook for all my friends and cousins and told Fiance he needed to get his friends. Our parents were given the task of getting family addresses. It took a while but I was sure I did it early. There are still a couple I never got, but I’ll ask again when invitation time comes.
Post # 6
I used Facebook for our friends on there. I emailed family for their specific addresses. I emailed the Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law to gather names AND addresses of their family and friends. That seemed to work the best for me!
Post # 7
We basically said, “If you want them there, then you’re responsible for getting their info to us.” So my parents called their friends and relatives for addresses, the ILs did the same for theirs, and Darling Husband and I Facebooked and emailed our friends.
So my advice is to delegate as much as you can and let everyone know that they can request guests all they like, but without the accompanying name and address information, you can’t send those lovely people any invitations.
Post # 8
lol I wonder if you address an invite “Guy in Registration” and “Lady I Play Bingo with” what the mail carriers would do with it! Honestly, tell them, I don’t know who guy and lady are so if you want them there, give me something I can use. lol that made me smile…Guy in registration 🙂
Post # 9
415+? Holy cow!
Do you want to invite 415+? I understand about the big family. But can you set a gound rule? If nobody knows their full name, they are not invited. Rule #2, if Fiance or Future Mother-In-Law can’t come up with the address, then no invitation will be sent to those people. Would that work for you?
Post # 10
@AprilJo2011: Good suggestions! It makes a lot of sense to assume that if your name and address aren’t known to the couple, that you frankly aren’t closely connected enough to warrant an invitation.
BUT, let this be a Public Service Announcement to anyone lurking on this board whose wedding lies in the as-yet-unplanned future: start keeping a decent address list of your friends and family now!
In the long-vanished days of my girlhood, the first step in planning a wedding was for the two mothers to sit down together with their visiting-books, and put together an invitation list. I recently had a young woman tell me she’d never even heard of a visiting-book, so she was sure it had nothing to do with modern manners. *sigh* A visiting-book is simply a book containing the proper name and title, street-address (and nowadays fax, cell, home-number and email) of everyone whom you have any sort of social dealings with. I use one page per social unit (that is, I put married couples together on the same page, and minor children with their parents.) I make a note on the appropriate page when I send or receive a Christmas card, have them over or visit them for dinner, receive them “at home”, give or receive a gift, and so on. It prevents me giving them the same thing two Christmasses in a row, or giving them the same thing they gave me the year before (we are friends, so we have very similar tastes!) or being the one who always eats at their table without ever returning the invitation, or otherwise embarrassing myself.
I keep mine on paper, but a decent Google Contacts list with all the correct annotations would probably work just as well. Just, start keeping it NOW so that you have it when you need it, and make a point of getting those formal details like how a woman prefers to be addressed and what their postal code is. If you do, you’ll thank yourself later.
Post # 11
Hi town buddie! Fiance lives in O’Fallon and I will too in 87 days! =)
We pretty much just asked parents for addresses, or called everyone/facebooked them, etc. =)
Post # 12
I used GoogleDocs to put together a form, which was emailed to all of my guests. When they filled out the form, it automatically populated into a spreadsheet. On the form, I asked for the following info:
- Spouse/significant other name
- Address 1
- Address 2
- Preferred email
- A check box for if they’re moving in the next year
It worked really well!
Post # 13
I recruited family help…I went straight to the granparents! They have everyone’s address! The one’s we didn’t know, we looked up in white pages online