Post # 1
Hi Hive! I’m in need of some advice regarding our guest list.
First off, we wanted to have an adult-ish reception… I use "adult-ish" because we have cousins that are still in high school, but there are only a few of them and they behave like adults anyway.
The only children under 15 who are definitely invited so far are my cousin’s two kids (ages 5 and 7). We made an exception for them because they are the ONLY kids on either side of our family and because everyone else in the family will be gone all weekend for the wedding (it is out of town).
Only one of our friends has a child – my Maid/Matron of Honor has a son who will be about 1 1/2 by the time our wedding rolls around. However, MOH’s parents (who are invited to the wedding) have custody of MOH’s nephew, who I think is about 11.
So my question: since I’m inviting my cousin’s kids and since she is my Maid/Matron of Honor after all, I need to invite MOH’s son, right? What about MOH’s nephew?
Post # 3
Kids don’t really like weddings…I would pay for a babysitter at your venue. A good ol’ nap room! Because after the food, kids get cranky and just want to sleep. And I’m sure your Maid/Matron of Honor would appreciate having a night off (especially from a 1 1/2 year old!!). So invite to ceremony, yes. To reception. No.
Post # 4
I would invite them. The babies aren’t really an issue, especially since your moh’s parents will be there to watch her baby and nephew while she is doing her moh duties. If you aren’t comfortable with all the kids not being watched a sitter is an option but that is up to you. Not all venues have extra rooms to put the kids and their sitter. Even if you do invite them they might get their own sitter because they want to let loose at the wedding. You can always ask your moh what she is thinking about it.
Post # 5
If you’re inviting other children- I would invite the nephew. It may hurt his feelings that he doesn’t get to go- and if she has custody, he may be in a sensitive situation. I’m sure it would make him feel like a bigger part of the family
Post # 6
Just ask your Maid/Matron of Honor and her parents what they want to do. I had people that couldn’t wait to get away from their kids for an adult night out!
She may want to leave her kid and nephew with a sitter so she and her parents can just relax and enjoy themselves.
Post # 7
I agree with RosyC. Since you are obviously close to her, since she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, you should just ask what would work best for them and then work something out that makes everybody happy.