- lulu mae
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
I would LOVE to get your opinion about this…
My fiance and I are planning on an out-of-state small low-key family wedding (ceremony and lunch only- no reception). To make the wedding easier on the family we chose to do it out of state where most of the family lives also we figured this would help with keeping the guest list short.
We have already told some friends they would be invited to the wedding (my best friend, his best friend and the best friend’s wife, and a best mutual couple). My fiance has an extremely small family of only a handful of people compared to my significantly larger family so him getting to invite some friends seemed necessary.. He opted to invite his best friend and the best friend’s wife but decided not to invite any other friends because his friends don’t get along together.. He told me it was okay to invite as many friends as I want so I mentioned this invite to my best friend and a best mutual couple. However, once we realized how large our guest list was getting we decided not to invite any more friends. But because we already told these friends (in some cases repeatedly) that they could come to the wedding it seems unforgivable now to uninvite them. Also, it would be nice to have some friends at our special day.. I was thinking kind of like they could be acting as representatives.
I worry though about how other friends will take it but at the same time I think it is fair of us to have invited these friends but not other friends because we are trying to keep this wedding as small (orginially we were hoping for a 30 person guest list!) and keep this wedding as close to family only as possible. Do you think it is rude of us to invite some friends and not others? Would it have been better not to invite any friends? Because we have already told these few friends they could come is there anything at this point we should change?
Also, there is the question of the plus one… I figured anyone traveling far (i.e. my best friend and one person in FH’s family) coud bring anyone they want as their plus oneespecially because it would be such a hassel to have to travel as well as the fact that these people wouldn’t really know anyone at the wedding… BUT what should I do about the family? This would consist of mostly 20 something year old cousins who already will know more or less over half the guest list. Is there any way I can let them know/discourage them from bringing guests we don’t know– exception to long term SO… ??
What are your thought on this bees?? I would say this is our most serious issue in this wedding 🙁