(Closed) Guest List (rant)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

That IS inconsiderate.

Are you having a destination wedding? The good news is that if you’re not, Save-The-Date Cards are not necessary. Two months is plenty of time for people to make non-international travel plans.

Maybe suggest to the groom that he go over to his parents house and literally sit down with them and force the list out of them?

Post # 5
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Assuming you’re  not going planning to go over their guest list to have a “whittling it down” discussion, I would just tell them to send it as it is THIS MINUTE and go from there.

It’s not the end of the world if some people don’t get a save the date.  I didn’t send one to everybody I eventually ended up inviting to our wedding.  Just to the people I KNEW we’d be inviting, to allow myself some flexibility in figuring out the rest later on. 

If they can’t think of the people right now, they’re likely on the fence about them.  Save yourself the trouble of having to invite somebody that isnt’ really wanted 4 months from now, and just skip the save the date.

Post # 6
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would honestly tell them that if they did not send the list to you right now (or by some date) that their list would not be included. plain and simple. 

That is just so rude! I feel like if they cared about certain people being invited, they should have sent you the list already. 


Did the groom already give you a list from him and these are just his parent’s friends? 

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