- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Hello bees! I’ve got a little situation I’d love your input on!
Fiance and I sat down and discussed the guest-list with his mom yesterday. As I’ve said in a previous post, it has inflated to almost twice as much as I originally planned. I got over it, and was fine with her inviting almost 50 more people than my side of the family… just because her friends have “kept up” with her kids, and prayed for them, and supported Fiance in his medical mission with donations, even though he hardly talks to them at all. Really, they’ve shown a lot of love, and even said that they’re so excited to meet me too. A lot of them followed my extensive blogging on my medical mission too, and made a point of “getting to know me” that way, as well. I have warmed up to having them there, even though his mom is inviting all these people b/c she feels obligated in some circumstances because they invited her to their kids’ weddings.
We 90% finalized the guest list, but when Fiance was walking me out, he mentioned to me privately that his side of the family is literally 50% of the guest list, my family is 25%, and our friends (peers our age) are 25%.
I get that my parents are somewhat anti-social and don’t have a lot of friends, so obviously the guestlist will be more skewed to his side. But Fiance is concerned that our wedding is going to be WAY TOO “old,” that our friends will be overpowered by the number of older guests, and that they won’t have as much fun (us as well). We were really hoping for a wedding that was super energetic, fun, and lively.
I’ve only been to ONE wedding (actually only the reception b/c it was LDS/Mormon) in the past 15 years of my life! What are the typical ratios of family to friends on the guest list? Do young people have trouble letting loose and having a blast even if they are in the minority? What are your guest list ratios like?
thanks for your take on this!