(Closed) Guest list – Sex Offender and Kids

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Wow..that’s..a situation for sure. I honestly have no idea what i would do in this situation. Was his offense with a really young child?

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Seriously, F ettiquette in this situation. I disinvited a close friend’s spouse over this very reason. She was super upset with me and we eventually got back together as friends (when she divorced him.)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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nelliemade :  yeah……for SURE don’t invite him.

I don’t know if you should invite her and not him and explain gently but firmly to her that because of his conviction and because of children on the guest list, he can’t be included, OR if you should refrain from inviting either of them and if she happens to ask you can let her know that you didn’t feel right inviting her without her spouse, but that her spouse’s conviction prohibited you from inviting him.

Either way, he doesn’t get to be there.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Just invite her and leave his name off the invitation.  F him. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

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nelliemade :  No need to worry about etiquette here. Either just invite the cousin or neither and you’re good. Absolutely no sex offenders. I would be so angry at my friend if they invited a sex offender and my children and didn’t warn me. I would not attend of I knew a sex offender was going TBH. (Disclaimer I don’t have kids yet but I’m pretty sure it would bother me.)

That said was he 18 and the girl 17? That’s different of that’s the case, but it doesn’t sound like it. You can actually look him up on the database and it will tell you the category of offence. But honestly I personally wouldn’t invite either person. 

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Safety trumps etiquette.  Sorry, due to the presence of children we are unable to invite your husband.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I teeter on the edge of etiquette in enough instances that would be frowned upon here so take this with a grain of salt, but: NO. Last thing you need to worry about on your wedding day is whether or not uncle creeper is assaulting any of the kids.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I just wouldn’t invite either of them. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

He might not be able to anyway. Parole boards are very strict about this kind of thing. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would invite her only and make it very clear he is not welcome.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

 

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SLOBee :  THIS! I dont understand how this situation is even a question.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Oh, and to add, I wouldnt even risk inviting just her and leaving him off the list. We would have to have a conversation that he is not allowed just in case she thinks it is a mistake and decides to bring him anyway.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Legally he can’t be there anyway so he knows if he was invited he cannot attend. Just invite the cousin and if she asks or assumes he is invited just say “Knowing he just spent time for violating his parole I thought it best that he not violate the terms of his freedom so he doesn’t have to leave you again.” That is assuming you can openly discuss it

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