- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I am having major stress with our wedding guest list and my Mother-In-Law to be. Our wedding is only 4.5 months away and the invites still have not gone out because of all of the problems we have had. My fiance and I asked both our parents to give us a list of A list guests and B list guests. Our venue has an absolute maximum capacity for the ceremony and wedding breakfast of 80. We wrote up a list that we were happpy with about 3 months ago. My parents have said that we should do whatever we want as it is about celebrating us as a couple not about pleasing everybody else. The list we ended up with was perfect, just the people who we really care about and love dearly.
Ever since then my Mother-In-Law has approached us on a weekly basis to make changes, taking people off and putting others on and then switching the same people again the following week! This has meant that we can’t make the invitations and send them out. She then started taking people off and saying that she would arrange a meal the week after the wedding for those people instead of the wedding!!!! 2 weeks ago I put my foot down, I told her that enough was enough, she had to make her final decisions that day and there would be no more discussion about it. I spent hours making the invitations and got them ready to send out today, only to be approached to make another load of changes. I told her that I will not speak to her about, she will need to speak with my fiance and now she is fuming! And I know that she will ask me again every day until I give in!
I just don’t think I can take anymore! My fiance suggested eloping when we got engaged because he knew she would be like this but I laughed it off, I’m really really regretting the decision to go ahead with this wedding now. The venue is booked, the deposit paid, my dress is ordered, the bridesmaids dresses have been ordered, the photographer booked, the hotels booked etc. It’s too late to run off now but I feel miserable with the whole thing. This is supposed to be enjoyable and it’s not at all, purely because of one woman!!!