(Closed) Guest List Stress

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Ugh, this sounds like a miserable situation.  I am sorry.  To compromise, maybe you can tell your mom that you & your Fiance will pay for the headcount of attendees that exceeds 200.  Like you said, you’re not going to get 100% of invitees to attend and if you do, well you & your Fiance will just pay for those few people. 

Post # 4
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Is it at all possible to get together for a brainstorming session with your fiance and both your moms?  Even if by telephone?  I think that would put the moms in touch with each other, and it would make them both feel like you value their input, but it would also possibly remind them that this is your wedding — not theirs.

Good luck. Sorry to hear you’re going through this.

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hugs, that sounds like a very frustrating situation!

‘My mother thinks that the bride’s side of this list should be larger than the groom’s side, regardless of whether they’re contributing to the budget or not.’

It is my personal feeling that your mom is being very unfair about this. Just because your fiance is the groom doesn’t mean that his side would want to celebrate your marriage any less than your side would. One of the more common ways of dividing up the invitations that I have seen (especially when parents are contributing) is that your parents, his parents and you each get 1/3 of the invitations..

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