(Closed) Guest List Trouble!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Should I invite over my capacity? See below before answering!
    Yes : (27 votes)
    63 %
    No : (16 votes)
    37 %
    The always present "Other" : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think it’s likely you’ll get 30 Nos from the list, considering the travel, but personally? I wouldn’t invite over capacity, I would do a second round. I know it’s considered rude to do that by some, but I can’t imagine calling and telling someone that I over-invited. 🙁  Especially if it’s a firecode or some other restriction.

    Post # 4
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    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think you’re safe! You are going to get at least 30 NOs. You’ll get 20 NOs by rule even if it was a local wedding.

    Post # 5
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think I read some where that on average there are 20% no’s.

    Post # 6
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My wedding is 500km away from where most of my guests live. We invited 110 people and ended up with 88 people in the end, so I think it’s safe to assume that at least 20 people will likely RSVP no. I almost wish I had invited more people lol!

    Post # 7
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We invited roughly 220 people to our wedding – as of right now it looks like we will have no more than 170 people RSVP yes. We have received 144 yes’s and I am still waiting on 25 to respond. I think you’ll be fine!

    Post # 9
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t invite over capacity… better safe than sorry, right?

    Post # 11
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    4676 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think typically 20% (on average) decline… So with the anticipation that 40 people will decline, and with all the travel involved your decline percentage will probably be higher I say keep your guest list as is! 

    Post # 12
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I personally think it’s fine to invite that percentage more. But, I also know that at least for me, relationships did change in the year leading up to my wedding (I had a lot of change that year,) and so my guest list looked a little different 2 months before the wedding when I sent invites than it would have 13 months before. It’s possible that you might find that you become less close friends with certain people as you get busy preparing for your wedding/marriage.

    Post # 14
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We are cutting our list.  I have aunts and uncles I litterally would not recognize if I ran into them at the grocery store.  I took into account that my parents & his parents would LIKE certain people to be invited, but since we are paying for everything ourselves, they understand that not everyone and their second cousin’s boyfriend will be invited.  We chose our venue based on capacity so we wouldn’t run into this problem.

    Post # 16
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @abbie017:  Gah that sucks.  I’m close to some of my family but not all.  I did end up having to look outside of our city to find the venue we did.  It’s a country club so we just got really lucky that they are big enough & most things are included so it’s not going to break the bank!

    I think in your case it might be ok to do a B list *(I really can NOT believe I just said that!) but as long as you do them close enough together so the B-list doesn’t feel like round 2 you should be ok.  It’s when people send out another round of invitations after the RSVP deadline that is beyond rude.  I would say to send invitations to family first, friends second, and B-list third, with a reasonable RSVP date in mind of course.

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