Post # 1
My fiance and I are having arguments over whether or not some people should be invited. He thinks that his friends families should be invited over my actualy family. What’s the best way o deal with this??
Post # 3
Wow! This is a tough one! How about this? What if you put each person’s name you want to invite, above and beyond the "must invites", on a slip of paper and then draw each name out of a bucket, hat, or whatever. You can even ask a neutral party to draw them. Then once you have reached the max people, you are done.
I personally say that if you are close to your family, they should be invited, but if his friend’s families are like family to him…
Let me know what you all decide!
Post # 4
I would say that your actual family needs to be invited first. Its only fair that you are both able to invite your actual families. Besides, just because you invite them, doesn’t mean that everyone will show up. So is it possible to invite your family and some of his friends?
Post # 5
I would say that you should each make a prioritized guest list, then compare them and see what’s what. Each of you list everyone, and label them as group a, b, c, etc. Hopefully both of your A groups will fit into your list. Then move down the list, through the b and c list, taking one from each of your lists at a time, back and forth.
Does that make sense? I’m having trouble putting what I mean into words, but it worked for my fiancee and I, because as we moved further down the list, the people got less and less important to us, so there was no real fighting for the last few slots.