Post # 1
I just wrote out a tentative guest list (for my side only) and I have 139 people. 99 of those are family members. I only included aunts, uncles, first cousins, and grandparents, with the occasional second cousin/great uncle/extended family member thrown in if I’m close to them. Oh. My. God. ONE HUNDRED AND THIRTY-NINE FREAKIN’ PEOPLE.
Anyone else have a giant family and/or a large wedding? Was it a madhouse or what? How did you have time to greet everyone, did everyone get fed at the same time, etc?
Post # 3
Totally know how you feel! my parents each have around 11 or so siblings, who each have 6-14 kids (yeah, you read that right!) so I have about 120 first cousins. Plus all the aunts, uncles, grandparents, nieces, nephews… I think u get the idea lol
I will not be inviting them all though. Half of them live out of the country, another quarter of them won’t be invited due to some ridicous family feud. I’d love to have them all there though. I love big families!
Post # 4
Our wedding will have 60 people max, and I still sort of freak out about that many people. I can’t imagine 200! Most weddings I have seen or been to had 75-120 guests or so.
Post # 5
Did that include giving everyone a plus one? Is so, start cutting! Decide what the cut off will be (married, engaged, living together, you have to know the plus one etc) and then only give a plus one to those who fit the bill. These people are family, they don’t need to bring a random date with them to enjoy your wedding.
Post # 6
@Azyriah: Pretty similar over here, but not nearly as much LOL
@michiru4ever: I wish I could cut the list that low! I would have soo many pissed off family members though haha
@Everdeen: I would say like 90% of them are married, soo I cant cut out their significant others :/ I am trying to find other ways though. I may have to get creative lol
Post # 7
My rule for +1 is that they must either be in a long term relationship, or not know other people at the wedding. You don’t have to invite every single cousin. Start cutting!
Post # 8
Haha We have about the same number on our list! I was hoping to be under 100 :-/ But the vendors we are working with have all said that 120-140 is actually a good number to be at, which is making me feel better. We cut +1’s from basically everyone who is single…I don’t want to be paying for people I don’t know!
Post # 9
Totally hear ya! We’re up to about 280, and that’s with only about 20 of our friends, the rest is family (aunts, uncles, first cousins).
Post # 10
My tentativ guest list was something like 200plus people. Yes, I was not sure how we were going to do that. We invited like 190 or somewhere around there and 134 people are coming (I ended up inviting my officiant and his partner). I had a budget for 150 people.
I don’t think it will get too crazy… we’ll get to mingle some and say hi to everyone at least. And we plan to go table to table to take photos. We have events all the time with like 50 or so people so another 80 won’t be too bad.
Post # 11
We were hoping to keep our wedding under 300. We both have big families plus lots of close friends and neighbors as we both grew up in rural areas. Its a tradition to have big Ukrainian weddings and our guest list is getting out of control! I think the last time I looked it at the list it was closer to 400! I do not want a wedding this big but I just dont know where to draw the line! I am really avoiding cutting down the list because I am so indecisive! Some neighbors will only be invited to our dance and skip out on the supper so I need help getting these numbers down! So I definitely feel your frustrations!
Post # 12
When we first started planning, we wanted to keep the guest list under 150. We both have very large families so that was impossible. The total invited was 318. We are expecting about 210. Yikes!!!