Post # 1
So my fiance and I are working on our guest list.
The problem? We can not seem to get the number right.
How many people (what percentage) of invites usually do not come? Anyone have any experience with this?
We have our list narrowed down to 3 categories…
A-Listers = definitely invited, will attend
B-Listers = invited after A-listers, will probably come
C-Listers = those invited after A-listers & B-Listers if there is any room left. May or may not come.
I would like to say screw it and invite everyone but I am so afraid that with my luck, everyone will show..
Thoughts? Anyone else have this issue? What did you do?
Post # 3
We only had 2 people that RSVPd yes not come, but it worked out okay because someone else brought a date we didn’t know about. We were aiming for about 120, invited 158 and had 110. For a while it looked like we might get about 130 people, but then all the last RSVPs we got were No’s so it brought our number down again. We invited a few people last minute (coworkers and such) when we were sure we had room for them. A couple of them apparently were offended they got late invites, but by that time I just didn’t care anymore!
Post # 4
We wanted only 50 people and had heard that 15-20% people invited will say no. So we invited close to 70 and are no ending up with way too may ‘yes’ RSVPs. Just be careful to not invite more than you would actually want there. It’s hard to count on ‘probably’.
Post # 5
We sent about 150 invites and had about 20 RSVP no. Then 3 yeses didn’t show up.
Post # 6
I think it also depends on where you’re getting married. For us, it was kind of desination for many of our guests because they were from out of state (and we got married in Santa Barbara), so a lot of people said yes because it was like a vacation to them.
Post # 7
We invited 375, had 225 RSVP yes, and only ended up with about 195. We had a LOT of no-shows…still pissy about that…
Post # 8
I cant believe people say yes to a wedding and then dont show up? What could possibly come up??
We are in the same dilema though – we are hoping to have 107 (10 tables of 10 and then the bridal table). We have 126 on our list at the moment, but we would be fine if all of them came, so not the end of the world!
Post # 9
@Miss Sydney: I was seriously shocked. Even as our guests were going through the recieiving line, I noticed so many people who didn’t show up.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
We invited 318 and had 271 and 0 no shows – about 85% acceptance
Post # 11
We invited 127 and 92 RSVP’d yes. Then 9 of those people didn’t actually show up.
Post # 12
@krystal.keel:We are doing the same thing.
List 1 – parents, kids, siblings, friends, etc that we KNOW will be there
List 2 – Friends and family members that will most likely come but expecting about 5 – 10% to say no due to previous plans or whatever due to when it is.
List 3 – Family and friends that live out of the area that we know are not coming but would be offended if they were not invited.
We are inviting a total of about 75 people (give or take a couple) and planning on a reception for 60 people. Now if EVERYBODY suddenly decides to travel and show up, things will be tight! Since are both encore’s, I don’t think it will be an issue though. 🙂
Post # 13
We invited 115, had 93 yes and 0 no shows.
Post # 14
we invited 520 only 9 have said no so far :/
Post # 15
i think we invited 350 knowing many are out of town and country guests, it’s a formality just to send the invite
invited 350, Yes = 280, Showed up = 270
10 no shows. kinda rude since i still had to pay for their dinner which was over $100! i should’ve justinvited someone off the street and fed them!
Post # 16
We invited about 250, about 200 said yes, and about 14 did not show up. (8 due to health/medical related issues, 2 ridiculous excuse, and 4 gave no excuse at all).