(Closed) Guest List- Who to invite in my dysfunctional family??? Advice needed!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1638 posts
Bumble bee

I was told if you invite one, you invite them all. But that was as to not hurt feelings. I feel like your situation is quite different though. I honestly can’t say how I would handle this. Do what’s best for you and your soon to be husband.

Post # 3
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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sarahalthea:  I’m sorry you are in such a touch position! I know etiquette is really important, but I still truly believe that you need to be happy and comfortable on your wedding day! If there are family members you don’t want there, I really think you say to hell with it and don’t invite them. The other family members may wonder about it, but you’re prepared for that, and I honestly believe most of them will be mature enough to not let it mess with your day.

Post # 4
681 posts
Busy bee

Cousin wise I would invite all cousins or no cousins. My cousin for her reception invited just about all aunts and uncles except my parents and I and one other aunt, and uncle and their sons. my grandpa and step grandma weren’t even invited. People may say invite who you want but if you pick and choose what family members to invite in each tier then it can cause hurt feelings. 


In your case since your aunts and uncles haven’t treated you well then I think it would be ok to pick and choose aunts and uncles. Siblings and cousin wise I would invite all or none. 

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