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posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
Member
8943 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

littlebridelost :  

There is clearly no way you can please everybody,  and you have already said your mum’s  feelings are the more important consideration.  So I think you have your answer .

Don’t invite Mary . But then don’t stress about it ever after , make your decision and live with it .   Be prepared for some of Mary’s children to call you on it , but your answer is simply the truth, that  your mother’s feelings ruled  your decision . They may not come because of it , given they might put  their mothers feelings first.

I’m sorry your mum is being so intractable on this, make  sure she knows you are doing it to please her and that you don’t want any more chat and heart-burning  over it. 

ETA I see you don’t feel you can ask Mary’s children  if you don’t ask her . Treat this as a separate decision   after you have made  up your mind  about Mary . 

Post # 3
Hostess
9038 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I would invite Mary’s kids (if they are adults) and not Mary. Any decision that make my Mum look “broken” would not be the right one.

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