Post # 1
My grandmother told me today that a couple that she sings with point blank asked her if they were going to be invited to my wedding! Actually, I don’t even remember them, but they attend the same church as my grandmother and mom and dad. (I use to go there when I was in middle & high school.) Grandmother says they will be SO disappointed if they don’t get invited!…My parents still go to church with them, but mom and dad are only inviting about 50 of their church friends. Do we invite people just coz their feelings might be hurt? I know we can’t invite EVERYONE…please advise me.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t invite them if you or your parents aren’t still close with them. You have to draw a line somewhere!
Post # 4
I would divide up the guest list – figure out the total number of people who will be invited (ex. 200 people) and then divide it between the different groups of people.
- Bride and Groom – 60 invites
- Bride’s parents – 70 invites (including all relatives)
- Groom’s parents – 70 invites (including all relatives)
Then each set of parents will have to decide who they would like to invite (but sticking to the numbers you provided as a guide).
Post # 5
No, you don’t have to invite them. I think it was kind of rude of them to have asked. If they are good friends of your grandparents and they would like to invite them that might be a different situation…if your are open to it and can afford to do so.
Post # 6
I second @EvaBostonTerrier, it’s exactly what we did. By giving our parents the freedom to choose their invitees, but limiting the number, we eliminated hurt feelings (of our parents) & arguments & passed the buck of cutting people to them.
Post # 7
Thanks bees….My mom says she is concerned because she is going to see a lot of people at church that we are not inviting. What should she actually s a y to people who ask if they are invited?
Post # 8
i will never never never understand people asking if they are invited. so weird.
Post # 9
We only invited about 1/3 of our church. There are a few that ask about the wedding with this sort of expectant tone, and it has been hard on my mom. She usually changes the subject, or mentions that we are having a small wedding with mostly family. It’s helped me to tell people how huge our families are – when they hear that we invited over 200 family members, they are like, “Oh wow!” and definitely don’t ask for an invite then!