Post # 1
Hi all! First actual post not in response to someone elses :). I am not sure if this is the right place or not, if not my apologies. We have found the perfect venue for our wedding and reception, here is the problem: we can only fit forty guests there. Our original guest list is 71 people. Most of his family is out of town, and may or may not be able to make the trip. How can we limit the guest list without offending people?
Post # 3
Maybe limit it to people you have spoken with in the last 6 months, put anyone else on the B list. If people get snarky about it just tell them you’re having a small intimate wedding with close friends and family only. They’ll get over it! And honestly, you will probably be able to invite everyone since a lot of your guests are out of towners, you’ll just have to send out 2 sets of invites..
Post # 4
Be up front when you get questions, and maybe include a card in the invitations that you are limited by the venue as to the number of guests you are able to include (aka – don’t bring your kids and the neighbors!).
Post # 5
Decide whom you cannot imagine the day without. Also ask yourselves who on your list you don’t communicate with on a regular basis and wouldn’t miss them if they weren’t in attendance and cut them. Do not invite people out of obligation, just to make other people happy. Those who are on your list that you cut (whom you don’t socialize with regularly, etc) will probably not be offended or even expect an invite. Most people do understand that weddings are generally intimate occasions where the couple doesn’t want or can’t afford folks they are not super close to. If someone is seriously offended and can’t be happy for you at all, then that is their problem, not yours.
Your guests do not need to know specifics of why you are limited to a certain guestcount, nor should they be informed. Anyone who does not receive an invite can receive an announcement.
Post # 6
Is it against ettiquette to not invite kids under 12? It is not only a space thing, it is a saftey thing as well. We are getting married at a river….a rather fast moving river.