(Closed) Guest List Woes

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Since you are in control of the invites going out, if she doesn’t adjust the list, Fiance (and trust me, make this come from him and not you) needs to tell her “Fine, then we won’t be sending these unknown people invites at all.”

Or, another way to handle this- divide the guest list. Ex: each family gets 40 guests, you and Fiance each get 35 guests. If it is SO important for Future Mother-In-Law that random-cousin’s teenage Boyfriend or Best Friend is there, then she can cut someone else from her list.


Post # 4
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jeg14:  Let your Fiance handle this. It is fine to have a cutoff age or child free wedding. His Mom is incorrect about that. And trying to include the kids boyfriends? I can’t even.

Your Fiance can just call his Mom and tell her to revise the guest list to omit all children under 13. He needs to be firm so she doesn’t try to sneak any in and he also needs to tell her you are not extending invitations to people you don’t want to come. Not to mention, if she thinks they won’t come, why is it a problem not to invite them?

Post # 5
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@rebwana:  +1, totally agree with the giving each family a number of invites.


I’m having guest list woes with Future Mother-In-Law not being capable of telling people they aren’t invited. At the end of the day, though, she gets 70 people (90 if you include FI’s invites). I told her I don’t care who she invites, but she only gets 70.

Make her decide if those distant family friends children’s boyfriends are important enough. You control invites, so if she gives you a list of 5 more people, tell Fiance to take off 5 of the people he doesn’t know. That will wake her up really quickly.

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