Post # 1
I have made a billion guest lists and they are always different and somehow growing. Originally, we were gonna invite 300 guests because we have heard that only a certain percentage of people will actually show up. So now we are trying to limit the list to 200 people altogether. Its hard for me because I have lived in five different cities and have made so many friends in all of them. I have a huge extended family and do not want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not inviting them. My fiance has many friends and a huge family as well so its going to be very difficult for both of us.
Our ceremony venue is the front yard of my friend’s house and we are not actually sure how many chairs will fit since it will be the first wedding there. Our reception venue can hold 250 max but we would rather not have that many just for the sake of cost of food and alcohol.
I have read in magazines about having an A list and a B list but I’m afraid that will really blow up in our faces. I’m afraid that some will say they cannot attend and then come anyways. I’m afraid that way too many people will not RSVP and I will be frustrated by the number of people trying to squeeze into the venue.
Post # 3
I also have heard that a certain percentage will not show up but I don’t like the idea of relying on that. I also have a large extended family but because they are close knit and live nearby I know that pretty much everyone will attend so the percentage rule wouldn’t not work in my case. If your families are likely to show up then I would make sure that I only invited 250. I don’t know if any of these work for you but you could try cutting:
– people on your lists who you are not very close to anymore
– only providing dates to people who live with a significant other or are engaged
– not inviting kids
I hope that helps.
Post # 4
yeah dont rely on the percentage list; 99 percent of my guests are showing up I have only 5 left to hear back from and it’s 2 months away!
I guess we are loved
Post # 5
While there is that average of 80% attendance…I wouldn’t count on it. In all honestly, it depends how close knit you are with your family and friends. They very well might come, especially if there’s not too much travelling involved!
You could try making cuts like Stormy said, by not allowing "and guests", not allowing children (cut-off is your decision; common cut-offs are 10, 12, 16, and 18), and cutting people you don’t really talk to anymore/just talk to at work. Unfortunately, any one of these will probably result in at least one or two hurt feelings.