Post # 16
Calyse: Lol. You sure got yourselves into a bad situation, didn’t you? I can’t even fathom the idea of just sending out invitations willy nilly without even counting how many could possibly show up. Now you find yourselves hoping and praying that people say no. Good luck.
Post # 17
Fiance has a much smaller family than me (parents have 1 sibling each) and is inviting all his cousins. I have a larger family (both parents were 1 of 5) and they all have multiple children. I’m only inviting cousins I actually see. I used a spreadsheet so I could keep a good count of who is invited and who has RSVPed.
Post # 18
Yikes. You better stay very organized with your RSVPs. In the meantime definitely set up a backup plan.
Post # 19
I wouldn’t bank on the people not showing up, we invited tonnes of out of towners and only got a 5% decline rate
Post # 20
I’m not saying your numbers will be anything like ours, but we invited about 300 and had about 130 show up. Some people came from across the country, others didn’t.
We weren’t super worried about it because we knew our venue could hold more than 150, which is what we were shooting for. We knew we wouldn’t get 300. We figured if we got 200 we’d have to put some of our wedding on credit but at least eveyone coudl fit. Worked out fine though.
Still, get a backup plan just in case!
Post # 21
So many of my guests I was assured would not show up actually came. My wedding involved 500-1500 miles of travel for most guests, and we had the vast majority come.
Post # 22
Calyse: You can never count on people declining. Ever.
Post # 23
Yikes! I hope this works out for you, OP, and let us know how it goes.
Post # 24
Holy wow! I hope a lot of people decline. I was told going into the wedding planning that a lot of people will decline and so my Mother-In-Law invited about 50 more people than can fit our ceremony and so far almost everyone has RSVP’s yes 😛 We’re allowed to have people standing at the ceremony but we can’t have more than 150 seats so I’m worried that some people will have to stand. I think that would be rude for our guests. It’s a short ceremony but still…I hope your situation works out! 🙂
Post # 25
SarahCF: Your comment brings some relieve to me. Our place can hold 225. If we have more than that I have found a back up reception venue, a family friend’s land. I think we will be good. We are getting married in a church and its a pretty big one.
Post # 26
Tallulah_: Thanks! I hope your situation works out too. Today my mom thought of a few other people she wanted to add to the guest list. I told her I needed to get many declines before we could invite anyone else.