(Closed) Guest List Worries and Frustration

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 16
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Calyse:  Lol. You sure got yourselves into a bad situation, didn’t you? I can’t even fathom the idea of just sending out invitations willy nilly without even counting how many could possibly show up. Now you find yourselves hoping and praying that people say no. Good luck.

Post # 17
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Fiance has a much smaller family than me (parents have 1 sibling each) and is inviting all his cousins. I have a larger family (both parents were 1 of 5) and they all have multiple children. I’m only inviting cousins I actually see. I used a spreadsheet so I could keep a good count of who is invited and who has RSVPed.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by  LarLa.
Post # 18
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yikes. You better stay very organized with your RSVPs. In the meantime definitely set up a backup plan.

Post # 19
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t bank on the people not showing up, we invited tonnes of out of towners and only got a 5% decline rate

Post # 20
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not saying your numbers will be anything like ours, but we invited about 300 and had about 130 show up. Some people came from across the country, others didn’t.

We weren’t super worried about it because we knew our venue could hold more than 150, which is what we were shooting for. We knew we wouldn’t get 300. We figured if we got 200 we’d have to put some of our wedding on credit but at least eveyone coudl fit. Worked out fine though.

Still, get a backup plan just in case!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by  SarahCF.
Post # 21
13842 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So many of my guests I was assured would not show up actually came.  My wedding involved 500-1500 miles of travel for most guests, and we had the vast majority come. 

Post # 22
4815 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Calyse:   You can never count on people declining.  Ever.  

Post # 23
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yikes! I hope this works out for you, OP, and let us know how it goes.

Post # 24
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Holy wow! I hope a lot of people decline. I was told going into the wedding planning that a lot of people will decline and so my Mother-In-Law invited about 50 more people than can fit our ceremony and so far almost everyone has RSVP’s yes 😛 We’re allowed to have people standing at the ceremony but we can’t have more than 150 seats so I’m worried that some people will have to stand. I think that would be rude for our guests. It’s a short ceremony but still…I hope your situation works out! 🙂

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