Post # 1
My venue comfortably holds 130 people, and our guest list was originally at 150. With that being said, after 22 out of state-ers and some last minute people we felt obliged to invite, we are now at 179. EEK!
Do any of you ladies have a story about your list, and how many people actually showed up?? Maybe how many you invited, and how many actually came or RSVP’d?
My mom keeps telling me not to worry, and that many people won’t come. I am having a July 4th wedding in a tourist town, and I don’t know what to think…
I won’t know for quite some time how many people are coming, and I need some reassurance!
Post # 3
Trim the list. If 130 is the max, then 130 is the max. Or change your venue
Post # 4
I guess I should add that all 179 people have recieved Save the Dates, and trimming is not an option…
Post # 5
Yikes. I’m sorry. There is no guarantee that 50 people will RSVP no. They might, though. Is it worth the risk? What will happen if you have 150? Will they fit? Will you have to get rid of the dance floor? What would you have to sacrifice?
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Brideonabudgetlauren: +1, you can’t assume that that many won’t attend.
Post # 8
If I had 150 I could swing it…I am going to do a head table and including my future hubby and I, that will seat 12 of us. So the rest of the tables could go from 10 people per table to 12, and I could make the dance floor smaller just for dinner.
I think there will be ways around it, but its just scary to think about. I am the first one of my friends getting married, and people have told me not to worry because 20% or some crazy number don’t usually come anyway, but I don’t know anyone personally that has dealt with it.
Post # 9
Our original guest list was well over 200 people, but the maximum capacity of our venue was 170. I had a Friday evening wedding on Memorial Day weekend, and our wedding was a semi-destination wedding for everyone including Darling Husband and me. We did not send Save-The-Date Cards, but we did mail our invitationa about nine weeks in advance of our RSVP date, 12 weeks in advance of our wedding.
Because I was terrified of having more people respond “yes” than our venue could accommodate, we had an A-list (family and very close friends and co-workers) and a B-list (friends whom we really wanted to invite but whom we may not have been able to accommodate if all of our family members came. The very day that we received an “unable to attend” response, I was ready to mail another invitation immediately. In all, we ended up being able to invite 212 guests, with 150 accepting. (Two additional guests had to cancel the week of the wedding due to a family emergency in another state, so we ended up with 148 guests total.
Having a B-list is perfectly acceptable — even to Miss Manners herself; the key is ensuring that invitations are issued in such a manner than no one knows he or she is on ithe B-list.
ETA: I just read your update stating that all 179 people have received Save-The-Date Cards, so the idea of a B-list is no longer a viable option.
Post # 10
My venue told me that if you have between 100-200 guests you should expect 80% to come, on average. If most of those are people you see more than 3 times a year or if you are the first to get married, add another 5%. For a holiday, take away 5%. A 75% acceptance rate is 135 people, so I would be nervous if I were you.
Post # 11
@pollywog. that calculation helps…and would put me around 140-145…I can deal with that.