(Closed) Guest List…freaking out!!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Trim the list. If 130 is the max, then 130 is the max. Or change your venue

Post # 5
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yikes. I’m sorry. There is no guarantee that 50 people will RSVP no. They might, though. Is it worth the risk?  What will happen if you have 150?  Will they fit?  Will you have to get rid of the dance floor?  What would you have to sacrifice?

Post # 7
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Brideonabudgetlauren:  +1, you can’t assume that that many won’t attend.

Post # 9
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Our original guest list was well over 200 people, but the maximum capacity of our venue was 170. I had a Friday evening wedding on Memorial Day weekend, and our wedding was a semi-destination wedding for everyone including Darling Husband and me. We did not send Save-The-Date Cards, but we did mail our invitationa about nine weeks in advance of our RSVP date, 12 weeks in advance of our wedding.

Because I was terrified of having more people respond “yes” than our venue could accommodate, we had an A-list (family and very close friends and co-workers) and a B-list (friends whom we really wanted to invite but whom we may not have been able to accommodate if all of our family members came. The very day that we received an “unable to attend” response, I was ready to mail another invitation immediately. In all, we ended up being able to invite 212 guests, with 150 accepting. (Two additional guests had to cancel the week of the wedding due to a family emergency in another state, so we ended up with 148 guests total.

Having a B-list is perfectly acceptable — even to Miss Manners herself; the key is ensuring that invitations are issued in such a manner than no one knows he or she is on ithe B-list.

ETA: I just read your update stating that all 179 people have received Save-The-Date Cards, so the idea of a B-list is no longer a viable option.

Post # 10
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My venue told me that if you have between 100-200 guests you should expect 80% to come, on average. If most of those are people you see more than 3 times a year or if you are the first to get married, add another 5%. For a holiday, take away 5%. A 75% acceptance rate is 135 people, so I would be nervous if I were you.

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