Post # 1
Hi bees!! hope you all are ok. I am so exited about my wedding it is getting so closr. April 30th!!
Now, I have a concern which is this: I invited a 34 years old friend (not my best friend… i met her went we took English clases for three months). Ok, during that time she was very nice to me since I had no car and she used to call me to take me to the school, to hang out, etc. Very nice. I wanted to thank her by inviting her to the wedding.
We amost never talk or write emails eachother (she lives in LA I live in South America) since we finished school. However, she knew about the wedding so I invited her.
She is actually a model!! super gorgeous, beautiful with a sculptural body shape and super tall. The problem is that as far I have seen on my facebook, she likes to get a lot of attention by dressing almost nude, she got about 100 plastic surgeries so now she looks naturally amazing. She likes attention from everybody according to her comments on facebook.
Now, I am….average looking,lol so I am concerned that she will be getting all the attention instead of me. I am the bride gosh! My family and some friends that have seen her pictures have told me”oh oh, she is going to be the center of your wedding”….
Well, now I do not what to do about it. She has never been a close friend of mine (just someone who helped me and I wanted to thank her ) but I feel bad because everybody is going to talk about how beautiful and who that girl was instead of talking how beautiful the bride was.
I am kind a jealous I guess….what would you recomend me to do? I now don´t want her to come to the wedding… The invitation is already sent and there is nothing I can do about it. Last time she and I wrote emails to eachother (a couple days ago) about the wedding she already said “I am going to”. She never calls me or writes me I am the one that do it.
any opinions? suggestions?? is there any way I can feel better?
thank you bees!!
Post # 3
Well, look at it this way. It will be men who are falling over her. The women will most likely think, “Yuck, a skinny beautiful girl wearing practically nothing,” because that is what we do :). But basically, I think it will be ok because your guests are your friends and family and they will care more about you and your husband than her. She may be gorgeous, but the only people who will give her a second thought are the people who are interested in dating her. It will be ok. Good luck!
Post # 4
I think the only thing you can do is try your best to not let it get to you. Sounds like she’s touched by the invite and will probably be looking good at your wedding. But, guess what – no one is there to see her. They are all there to see you. I had a girl show up in a crazy LOUD outfit. When I saw her, I thought – seriously?! Are you trying to get all the attention with your loud outfit and crazy hat? It bothered me, but it also made me laugh, because that is so ‘like’ her. I didn’t let it annoy me to the point that it took away from the wedding day or why everyone was there. Do your best to remind yourself that the day is about you and your love for your husband… everything else is secondary.
Post # 5
Pray she declines the invitation? Stick her at a table in the back at the reception? LOL 😉 Kidding, kidding. Look. This is someone who was a friend to you at a point in your life, regardless of how she looks, and regardless of how she is treating you now. You were kind to reach out and invite her. If she comes, people may ooh and ahh about her at first glance, but ultimately this is your special day with your darling, above and beyond anyone else. You will look glamorously divine. Your love will to be celebrated. Trust the goddess in you to shine that day, because it will.
As for your friend, I do hope she’ll give you a Yes or No regarding her invitation. April 30th is around the corner and you do need to plan. You might call her to ask f she is coming (do not rely on email or texting) and if she says yes, share that you are making sure all your guests know it is a classy, formal affair (if it is) and therefore classy formal attire is requested. Hopefully she’ll get the hint and dress accordingly.
Post # 6
Are you close to your reply deadline? April 30 is getting pretty close and i’m assuming (hoping for you) that she would have told you she was coming by now. I would say there is a good chance she won’t be coming anyways. It is pretty far to travel for someone you aren’t too close to.
Post # 7
If you didn’t have other posts I would seriously think this was a troll. Is this problem for real??
Post # 8
Thanks ladies for your imput and nice words. I forgot to tell you guys I will get married in Pennsylvania (my Fiance lives there), USA so she might come. She told me she would come to the wedding and asked me about hotel reservation and everything. She haven´t replay the RSVP yet but she wrote me an email telling me she would come.
Now, I would not care how beautiful she is in the first place. My issue is her attitude. She cheekily will try to outstand above everything, like if she was a super star…you know what I am saying? My family and I know her and they warned me.
I went to a wedding where two people were in the reception singing and playing a song as a gift for the couple. Unfortunatelly they screw it up! I still remember that wedding not because how beautiful the bride was or anything (I barely remember the decoration) but because of these two singers.
So like cornflakegirl said: I WILL PRAY she declines the invitation lol I like that!! I just wanted be nice but I did not think about somethings very well. I could have invite her to a different party…not for my wedding day. Well, I will not let this get me (I am trying,lol) so many thank you to you and if you may give more imput they will always be welcome!
Love you guys!!
Post # 9
LOL @MissHoneyBun took the words right out of my mouth.