Post # 1
so now that my envelopes are back from the calligrapher and everything is set to mail out monday, i’m starting to feel bad about some people i didn’t invite. we have like 5 extras. is it worthwhile toget someone local to do a few more for me (like 3 couples) or just stick with the list i have? why was i so anal and picky when i made my list?? i am just feeling yucky about a few people i decided not to invite – this is after learning that other guests on our list (not mine – FI/parents) are people no one has seen or heard from in more than a year or two. meanwhile some of the people i decided not to invite are like 1) someone i see once a week who i’ve known longer than FI and who has listened to every detail of my love life and wedding planning 2) someone who has known me forever and was a mentor to me all through high school. these people are local, so its not like they’d need to book hotels or flights.
*sigh* i don’t know what do. but i think my planner might kill me.
Post # 3
If inviting them doesn’t break your budget, I would. We had to break our list down to “Who have we spoken to in the last year?” if we couldn’t remember, they were gone. (for the most part) People you speak to often and especially about the wedding, I would include them. Good Luck!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy
If you have the space and room in the budget invite them. If you’re running low on time I’d just address the envelopes yourself or print out nice labels.
Post # 6
If you think it would make your day more special, and you can afford it- go for it! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree – if you can afford to invite them (also assuming not everyone you DO invite will be able to come), then I would. They seem to be important enough to you that you would want them there 🙂
Post # 8
Wow, I can’t believe it, this is like the third post I have read that I am in the exact same situation. Small guest list with a maximum of 100. My FI included several people he really couldn’t care less if they attended, while I had some of my close people on a secondarly list. I was trying to be fair so that he would have just as much representation. Now, everyone is saying Yes and it looks like we are going to be so tight that I can’t even think to send another invitation out. I am sad because had I known this, I would have done a little differently with my list. I feel terrible about some people that are being left out.
Post # 9
We had this happen and my Mom just hand wrote addresses on the envelopes and we invited about 20 extra couples to the wedding. We were originally stingy because the ballroom was so small and we didn’t have enough space, but realized we were being silly since about 1/3 of our guest list were people who we hadn’t spoken to in years and obviously never even responded to the invitation.
Post # 10
i’d totally invite them! they seem like special people who would really appreciate being included. i think you should go ahead an hand address them yourself, or have a friend do them if your own handwriting is illegible.
Post # 11
Remember that usually the response rate for weddings is about 70 percent yes and 30 percent no. So keep that in mind as you make your decision because you might actually be able to afford them if you’re budgeting for more than 80 percent of your guest list to attend.
Post # 12
If you can afford to, I would invite them.
Post # 13
I’d definitely invite them. If they’re important to you, they should be there!
Post # 14
I am going through this with one friend and her husband. I am afraid there will be too many people saying yes and I am a little freaked out about it (if no one brings their kids I’ll be fine but who knows). I think I will wait till some of the invites come back and I get a better idea of who is not coming…just in case. But I feel bad about it.