Post # 1
One of our guests is severely allergic to nuts. She can be around nuts, just as long as she doesn’t touch them. It is very difficult to find places that not only can gurantee nut free catering, but also guarantee that the plates they are using haven’t previously come in to contact with nuts – this is a massive issue for our guests day to day, to the point that she keeps all her own cutlery and crockery seperate from her flatmates stuff. In the past when we’ve gone for dinners and shes come along too, she has always just said not to worry and that she’ll bring sandwiches or something. What should we do about the wedding? Can we explain to the venue our issue (they say they can guarantee nut free dishes but not a nut free kitchen) and ask if this one guest can bring in her own food to eat – maybe like a gourmet packed lunch? Maybe we could even make up a nice gourmet packed lunch with foods that we know are safe.
Anyone had this issue?
Post # 3
Your guest definitely needs to be allowed to bring her own food if the caterer cannot guarantee a but free space. Talk to your caterer.
I’m a little worried because we chose an almond cake. I don’t think anyone is allergic, but if they are, I will feel pretty bad.
Post # 4
@ghiagirl893: That’s my thinking, just wanted to see if there were other alternatives. Make sure you find out if any of your guests are allergic – a severe nut allergy can actually be fatal. It’s just good to know. 🙂
Post # 5
Yeah I agree, if they can’t guarantee it, she should bring her own meal. I’m sure she’s used to it if she has such a serious allergy. She probably won’t care as long as she’s got something to eat.
Post # 6
I have a cousin and B-I-L that are both nut allergies (and a few gluten free but thats a bit less serious) and we have chosen to just avoid all nut items at our wedding though to be honest I would have liked nuts in the salad…it just isn’t worth it though even though I know they are very careful and wouldn’t be offended
if she feels more comfortable just doing her own thing then I would just let her bc that is a hige risk for her and I wouldn’t want to put her in an uncomfortable (or deadly) situation but if you can get the details on how your catering will handle she can make that choice herself?
Post # 7
I would talk to your caterer more about it. They should certainly be willing to allow her to bring her own food or make some other kind of accomodation for her. Most caterers are really good with allergies and make every possibe attempt to keep the items separate. If you wanted to be super careful, you may also just want to select items for the rest of your menu that don’t have nuts in them so that there isn’t a risk of her foods getting mixed up with everyone else’s (if that’s a possibility for you, but not totally necessary).
Post # 8
in all honesty i dont think caterers can guarentee that a plate has never been touched by a nut previously, even if they can guarentee the guests food has been prepared in a nut free environment. more to the point im not sure they’d try as unlike other mistakes, you make a mistake with this and you kill a guest
i would get permission for her to have a packed meal, im sure ti must be possible to make an exception
Post # 9
I suffer from the same reaction to nuts as your guest – my opinion would be not to stress to much, those of us with severe nut allergies are used to these kinds of situations! If she is allowed to bring her own food/if you are able to supply sepereate food for her that’s great!
Otherwise, in my experiences, that fact that the kitchen cannot guarentee this is simply their way of not being sued/held responsible should something happen.. the liklehood of her actually suffering a reaction is VERY minimal (I have only been in this situation once and i’m 24.. and it was simply because the waiter assumed there was no nuts in the dish and didn’t check, and there actually was)
If the kitchen are aware of the issue, speaking from experience, they will always be careful and are HIGHLY unlikely to actually serve your guest anything that has come in contact with nuts 🙂
Post # 10
@anahappilyeverafter: No worries! I will make sure no one gets hurt by my cake! It was just something I hadn’t thought about until going to a Superbowl party where nearly the whole menu was shellfish, which I am allergic to.
Post # 11
We had our Chinese banquet at a seafood restaurant. One of our guests has a severe seafood allergy and the restaurant couldn’t guarantee that they could make an uncontaminated dish (since all of the surfaces and cookware would have been in contact with seafood), so they allowed us to bring in an outside meal for her. You should just ask if they’ll allow that.