(Closed) Guest to bring new boyfriend?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i think your co-worker will enjoy your wedding more if she has a guest she can travel with, eat with, and dance with.  just my two cents

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You already told her maybe so you should just let her.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ryansgirl: Does she know other guests of the wedding? I.e. is there going to be a “coworker” group? Are any of the other coworkers single?

I think if she’d be the only coworker or the only single coworker then she should be allowed her date.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Anyone in a relationship should get to bring their significant other. Generally, it’s best not to try to judge the “seriousness” of others’ relationships. Some people get engaged after just a month, after all. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It’s really up to you.  You said you were limiting it to serious relationships, so are there other guests who also have newer significant others who were not invited?  You wouldn’t want to invite him just to make someone else upset because they weren’t asked to bring their SO.

However, it’s totally up to you.  We limited our guest list to fiances and obviously spouses because there just wasn’t room.  In my opinion, anyone old enough to have a significant other is also old enough to handle making small talk for 3 hours with other people.  Also, with our guest list, everyone invited also knew someone else there, so anyone there solo had friends to talk to.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I think since you have room and since you told her yes, based on that, that you should.

Besides, I am always in camp ‘bring a date’.  People just will have more fun that way and will enjoy your wedding even more.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

yes

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

As a wedding guest, I’d have more fun if I was able to bring my new Boyfriend or Best Friend.  

As a bride, I’m annoyed at the strangers in my wedding photos that I may or may not have had fun with on the wedding day.

If you can afford/accomodate the guest, I’d allow it.  I was in the +1 camp for my guests… even moreso when it’s a date.  I got annoyed when the +1 turned into either a friend or a parent – but, it’s up tot he guest to decide what to do with the +1.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Ryansgirl: You aren’t supposed to split up social units. And if they are in a relationship, they are a social unit. Perhaps she thought that he was overlooked on the invite (or they went out after they were in a relationship). Or maybe she didn’t know if you knew she was in a relationship. Either way, they should be invited together. She didn’t do anything wrong. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ryansgirl: Are there other guests who have boyfriends/girlfriends who will not be invited? I could see some hurt feelings if this one guest gets to bring her guy but others in a similar situation do not.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Ryansgirl: Yes, it is very rude of her to ask, so it’s totally your choice!  Personally, I would’t if she will have other friends there, especially if you limited it to fiances/spouses for everyone else.

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