(Closed) guest transferring an invitation

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wait, did friend suggest this, or your mom?  If it’s your mom, you can put your foot down that you don’t really know here and you wanted your mom to have her friends there.  If it was the friend – how gross of her to suggest it.  These aren’t concert tickets.

Edit  – if your mom already invited her, I would ask your mom if she can explain how you two are totally broke now and you were relieved when there were two less people, although sad that Friend and Husband weren’t going to be able to attend.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We have a few people who did this. But really I don’t mind. They approched me. She wanted to bring her mother instead of her husband (who probably wouldn’t like weddings period, he wasn’t even into his own, her mom on the other hand, a wedding planner loves them). I’m okay with this. 

But if you aren’t, then you need to make it clear. But who’s paying for the wedding is another question that comes up. I’d try to talk to mom (if she isn’t completly hard headed) and let her know you that you aren’t comfortable having someone you don’t know there.

Post # 7
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When I read the title of the post, I thought, can she really mean someone passed along the invitation?  This is really bizarre…first time I heard this one!  Is there any hope that the new couple will decline the “invite”?

Post # 8
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Man oh man. I can understand if one guest couldn’t come and the partner wanted to bring a friend (you’ve already budgeted for two people, so whatever), but passing along the invitation to two completely different people? WTF.

Honestly, I think you call them, say how much you wish that they could be there, but that you’re getting to the financial or venue comfort point where some “No” responses are kind of a relief anyway — you just wish it didn’t have to be them who couldn’t come. Let them put two and two together from there. Normally that’s blunter than I’d be, but oy vey.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow, that is very strange.  Maybe call or send a note saying “I’m sorry that you and your husband cannot come, you will both be missed (barf*kissassabit*).  Since I don’t really know your daughter and her boyfriend well, I hope you understand why we did not send an invitation to them.  We really want to spend our special day with the people we are closest to.”  Something like that.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@marycatherine1:  I totally get it. when I first read this, I though she was just switching her +1’s or whatever out. Now I totally see it’s like a whole new set of people

Nope. Not happening at my wedding. I’ve got a backup list as well. You can’t come, #1 off that list gets that.

Post # 13
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@marycatherine1:  I don’t know which is weirder: passing along the invite to a different couple, or that couple actually accepting the “invite”!  I think them accepting and going is even more strange.  Can you imagine!  I wouldn’t think of passing along or accepting a passed on invite to any occasion, especially a wedding!  And you don’t even know them.  If it were me, I would probably, in all honesty just be too uncomfortable to say anything, especially knowing they are planning to make a little vacation out of the trip.  I would just suck it up and deal.  I am not giving you that advice, just what I would do because it is just too strange to deal with. Hopefully this is your bizarre gone wrong incident for your wedding and everything else will be smooth.  Good luck!

Post # 14
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just re-read your original post.  Considering the friendship your mother has with the original invitees, I would probably just let it go.  I would not want to see my mom go through the discomfort.  In the big scheme of things, it’s not worth saying anything about.  Once you’re at your wedding, you will be having such a nice time, you won’t even care about it anymore.  

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Who does something like that??? It’s so incredibly rude of your mom’s friend! And who is this daughter who is willing to attend a wedding she wasn’t invited to? I have never heard of such a thing. Sorry about that- you are obviously going to be paying for 2 people you don’t want at your wedding.

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