Guest travel day

posted 2 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
1182 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Yikes, a thursday wedding with mostly Out of Town guests?  I’m sure your guests appreciate that /s. I either wouldn’t go or just take off Thursday and Friday if we’re really close.  No way I’m taking off any more time than that for someone else’s wedding.

Post # 3
5866 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would see no reason to travel the day before for an evening wedding if I’m honest.  Unless there was something specific I wanted to do in the area I would travel the day of. 

Post # 4
7433 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think I’d travel for a 5pm Thursday wedding. If I did, I’d probably fly in that morning and only stay the one night in the hotel; if I had to take two days off work anyway, I’d want to spend Friday and Saturday in whatever the closest big city was, before returning home Sunday. 

But like pp noted, unless we were super super close, I’d just send my regrets. The travel time is just too inconvenient. 


Keep in mind, your west coast guests might not have the option of traveling Thursday morning due to the flight schedules; it’s hard to leave the west coast early enoguh to arrive in the east coast by 5pm unless you’re going nonstop. So at the very minimum, you should look at a later start time or hold the wedding on the Friday. Otherwise folks will need to take off Thursday and Friday, and possibly all or part of Wednesday as well.

Post # 6
1182 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017


Aprilmae419 :  I’m sure most of them feel like they have no choice and of course they’re not going to complain about to your face, but the reality is you are invonceniencing your guests, especially if you know there are no flights available the morning of so they are basically forced to take 3 days off work.  Honestly if you have to have a weekday wedding and you can’t do Friday, I’d do Monday rather than Thursday.

Post # 8
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would travel the morning of the wedding, given the late start time.

Then I’d stay on the Thurs night (unless I was within a two hr drive, in which case I might go home immediately) and either go home on Fri or make a weekend of it.

But if it’s a small wedding doubtless you know your guests better! Why don’t you just ask your guests what their likely plans are? 

Post # 9
6864 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Aprilmae419 :  I would most likely travel Thursday morning but I don’t know how that helps you plan as I’m not invited–a group of internet strangers can’t provide accurate answers regarding when your guests will travel, only they can.

Post # 10
6 posts
  • Wedding: September 2019

A Thursday evening wedding at a New England lake town sounds lovely! And then everyone, including you, can relax for the rest of the weekend and enjoy themselves however suits them. We went to a NY wedding mid-October this year and the leaves were at peak – it was so pretty.

I agree with secondtimer18 re: asking guests, although most people probably haven’t thought that far ahead. If it were me and I had to guesstimate without asking, I’d put a deposit down for half the rooms Wednesday night. 

Post # 11
470 posts
Helper bee

I would travel on Thursday morning but would likely be tired from traveling and wouldn’t feel like partying all night so would probably leave the wedding early.

Post # 13
9862 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I had a Friday wedding with mostly out of town guests. The majority started arriving on Wednesday.

For a Thursday out of town wedding, I would probably arrive on Tuesday or Wednesday depending on my schedule.

Post # 14
273 posts
Helper bee

I would fly in Wednesday.  You have to figure a 5-6 hour flight- plus anticipating (likely) delays, arranging transportation from the airport to the venue/hotel-  turns easily an 8 hour travel day.  I would be too exhausted fully enjoy going straight to a wedding after that long of a travel day.  Plus, unless your guests are taking early morning flights, there is always a risk of flight delays making them late to the wedding as well.

Post # 15
13785 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In all honesty, I’d probably decline this invitation unless you were a sibling or best friend. If that were the case, I’d probably come in the day of to minimize the inconvenience. 

I would also be annoyed about the Thursday wedding regardless of who you are. 

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