Post # 17
Yeah I agree that the sisters should get plus ones. We’re making it an age and close family thing. His close cousins (practically siblings) are both getting plus ones even though one is in a relationship and the other isn’t. My brother, who is young and single, is also getting a plus one. He’s not in the Bridal Party but if we were having one he would be.
Honestly, I’d probably be annoyed if my sister got a +1 and I didn’t. But also, around here it’s common courtesy to “gift” (aka cash) more if you bring a date.
Post # 18
@Bostongrl25: It’s hard enough with an already small guest list to include the right family members and friends without other relatives and loved ones getting offended bc so and so was invited but this person wasn’t, etc. It would make things so much worse, then having to cut things down even further with the explanation that “sorry, cousin B can’t come because cousin A had to bring a random date.” no way.
Post # 19
@CountryBee13: Ive already had my wedding with a smallish guest list, so I understand the difficulties. The plus 1 debate is something I feel strongly about, but I’m not trying to change anyones opinion.
Post # 20
we have very few people who would need a plus one but the only ones we extended it to were people in the wedding party regardless of their relationship status(this really only applied to FIs 2 cousins who are groomsmen) My only defining rule was “don’t bring some random hoe to our wedding–you’re going to be in the wedding so if you don’t want said date to be sitting with your mother then don’t bring her” Both of them promptly declined their +1s….
Post # 21
I have commented on other threads before about how I am offering my single guests the option of a +1 but we literally have like 2-3 people who are really really single. In my mind, the +1 allows the guest to be more comfortable if there is a limited amount of people that they know. IMO family doesn’t necessarily require that +1 IF they aren’t in a relationship (and I don’t care if its been 2 weeks or 2 decades). Most of the time, they should know plenty of other family members there.