(Closed) Guest wants to match BM’s!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Um….. WHAT?  Seriously, I wonder what planet some people live on.

Post # 4
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You know whats crazy my daughter in law swears this is what you do.  My son mentioned in passing that his wife wanted to know the exact shade of brown and burnt orange i was using so she could get her outfit.  I explained that she didn’t need to match and he said she does this for everywedding they go to.  I laughed soo hard and explained how you shouldn’t do that that the colors are to differentiate the wedding party from every one else etc etc.  LOL

Post # 5
1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hmm I don’t think there is a problem with this. My mom, Future Mother-In-Law, aunts, cousins etc. all wanted to know the wedding colors so they could match their attire. Maybe my family is a little more obsessive about photos than the rest, but I’m pretty sure everyone is at least going to be wearing a complimentary shade or color to our wedding. This doesn’t seem strange to me at all. I usually try to somewhat match or coordinate when I attend a wedding. If the wedding colors are red maybe I’ll wear a black dress with red shoes and accessories. You get the idea.

Post # 6
255 posts
Helper bee

Haha that is great!
What did you say? I think I would be so taken aback that I wouldn’t know what to say!

Post # 7
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

 REally? I’ve never though to do something like that.

Post # 8
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Really? Why would a random person want to match the bridal party colors.

Post # 9
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@mrs.peters.to.be: i wouldnt mind only family matching since well there practically part of the wedding but only if its close family

andbody else as of friends no i have been asked that too and i have answered telling them of the color pallet to our wedding but not what everyone is wearing.

Post # 10
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

That made me LOL!  I can understand when a family member or friend who is helping out wants to coordinate, but a complete stranger is a bit silly to me.  However, after looking at some pp’s, it looks like this might be customary for some. 

Post # 11
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i can see why family members want to match, i.e. MOB and MOG but having guests match the BMs is weird. i actually had a friend who wore a similar color dress as my BMs and she told me she was embarrased by it. 

Post # 12
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

pick the ugliest shade of the color that is totally oposite of you Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and make her wear it lol

Post # 13
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Tell her the wrong color!  If she says anything, tell her you changed the color at the last minute and totally forgot to inform her!

Post # 14
2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

that’s strange! i’ve asked bridesmaids or people in the know about dress length so i match the event formality before, but color is a totally weird thing to match!

Post # 15
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Seriously????  At least she doesn’t want to wear white and a veil!

Post # 16
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

That’s so weird – if it’s family, that’s one thing (although not my personal preference) but some random person’s date – no way!

Tell her a color that is totally different from your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses / wedding colors.

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